Building More Intimacy: Handling Conflict Like a Man

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Steve Horsmon explains how to be a prize-winning communicator in a relationship.

“Emotions always come out, and often at the worst time. We need to learn to work with them, not tamp them down harder.”

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How did you learn to express your emotions instead of stifle them? Did it take practice or did it come naturally once you figured the toxic logic of expecting men to be eternally stoic?

Troubled Kids and Guns

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Dan Kimber has seen pain and anger in too many kids during his career in education.

Eight Reasons I Love Men

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Paul Kidwell meditates on some of the things that make men worthy of love.

The Value of Choking Up

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Alan Kercinik talks about finding his “why” as a father… and his emotions.

Bullied Teen Taken Off Life Support After Suicide Attempt

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Another teenager is dead by his own hand. Noah Brand talks about why this keeps happening.

“The capacity for change in even the most backward people starts with compassion. Take it from a former Psycho Bitch from Hell.”

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This is a comment by Vironika Tugaleva on the post “How to Deal with a Psycho Bitch from Hell”. The more we label each other, the more we reduce each other to stereotypes and the more we barriers up the walls between each other. We have to start at compassion to be able to reach through the awful moments.

“What I found was the attitude that it’s okay for women to talk about feelings and cry for help, but men can’t.”

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This is a comment by Cy Young and Bonnie on the post “6 Ways to talk to Your Son About Male Violence and Healthy Masculinity”. What messages have you been bombarded with about violence as a man? Were you taught how to punch so you could defend yourself on the playground?

“We all are guilty of expressing raw emotion in an unproductive manner–especially in intimate relationships”

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This is a comment by Caitlin on the post “How to Deal with a Psycho Bitch from Hell”.

“There is pain in knowing you will never look into the eyes of a smaller part of you.”

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This is a comment by Mark Good on the post “Male Disposability: 1/19″.

The Other Health Risk For Middle-Aged Men: Suicide

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Societal suppression of male emotion contributes to the 4th leading cause of death that no one talks about.

Rap Music as a Safe Space for Hetero-Masculine Love

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That most masculine of subcultures, the world of hip hop, ironically provides an acceptable outlet for men to express platonic affection for one another: through rap lyrics.

“If I act like an adult 90% of the time, but get treated like a child anyway, what’s the point?”

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This is a comment by Michael Philp on the post “Raising Teenagers For Dummies (Like Me)”.

“Depression rolls in like fog regardless of the situation. Every day is like a battle.”

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These are comments by Osnat, Jen, and Scott on the post “Darkness Falling”.

“I have learned so much from the conversation at The Good Men Project.”

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This is a comment by Carla Smith on the post “Why Our Boys Need The Good Men Project”.

“Depression feels like drowning.”

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This is a comment by The Redhead Bedhead, Jane, and Sarah on the post “Can I Overcome Depression?”