Only ‘Yes’ Means Yes: Sometimes What You Think is Consensual Sex is Actually Rape

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Shannon Ridgway and Sandra Kim offer a clear guide to understanding and obtaining consent from your partner.

Partying Doesn’t Have to Mean Risking Rape

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Can we create a safer party culture for all?

Why It’s Dangerous to Say “Only Bad Guys Commit Rape”

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It may be comforting to believe that all rapists are bad people, but in truth, rape most often happens between friends, lovers, acquaintances and pals.

“The Answer is No” – The Case for “Baby, It’s Cold Outside

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Marianne examines whether the holiday standard “Baby It’s Cold Outside” is actually a song about sexual coercion.

Guess What: Rape’s Not Funny When the Victim is a Man, Either

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Miriam takes issue with the sexual assault joke in Jezebel’s ‘Sexytime Dilemmas’ column, and asserts that jokes about raping men simply aren’t funny.

If You’re Into Vanilla Sex, the Kink Community Has a Lesson For You

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HeatherN asserts that those who like vanilla sex have a lot to learn from those in the kink community.

Ask First: Gender-Neutral Sexual Assault Prevention Poster

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“Consent is hot, assault is not.”

College Courses On Human Sexuality: Education or Titillation?

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Joanna Schroeder thinks education should include more talk about sexuality, but wonders if some of these courses take things a bit too far.

“Enthusiastic Consent as a concept is great for both men and women”

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This comment was from Julie Gillis on Lessons From the Seduction Community, Part Three: Explicit and Tacit Sexual Communication

Let’s Really (Really) Talk About Sex

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Julie Gillis doesn’t believe in plain, old consent. She wants it to be enthusiastic.

On Libido, part three

Trigger warning for discussion of rape. In my two previous posts on the subject, I talked a little about the ways that gendered societal ideas about libido fuck with people. Men are expected to be constantly-horny fuckbeasts, and women are expected to not want sex all that much, but trade it for things they do [...]