We Do Not Know What You Mean Unless You Say I

speaking from the heart, men talking about emotions, men communicating

Colin Berry invites famous and unfamous men alike to own what they say, and for all of us to reap the benefits.

“I attended a homophobic, hyper-masculine all-male high school, and I listened to a lot of punk and hardcore as an outlet for my feelings there.”

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This is a comment by Evin Carty on the post “Is Music the Last Sanctioned Outlet for Men to Express Their Emotions?”

“Emotions always come out, and often at the worst time. We need to learn to work with them, not tamp them down harder.”

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How did you learn to express your emotions instead of stifle them? Did it take practice or did it come naturally once you figured the toxic logic of expecting men to be eternally stoic?

“Before we can teach respect for women, boys need to learn to respect their own bodies and sexuality.”

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Danny says that there are key things that we have to teach boys about themselves before we even start on other genders. What do you think? What would you say to your child self?

“Admonishing someone with depression is like telling a paraplegic person ‘I don’t see the problem, just get up and walk!’”

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Have you ever been depressed? Did you have people telling you just to get over it? Or to just “think positively” and “believe in yourself”, expecting it to go away like magic? How did you respond?

“Kids will make a guns out of anything. Before nerf guns, my son made them out of legos and and even his sandwich.”

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Do you let your kids play with toy guns? Do you restrict their play to water guns and not BB guns? Is it all over-hyped precaution or is it an important principle to teach kids?

“Men need to hone in on their inner HSP to help other each other through tough times.”

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These are comments by Leia and Rick Belden on the post “Welcome to the New Generation of Highly Sensitive Men”. There is an opportunity for men to pick up on the anguish and troubles of others and do what they can to creative solve them together. Can you tune into your inner Highly Sensitive Man?

“The capacity for change in even the most backward people starts with compassion. Take it from a former Psycho Bitch from Hell.”

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This is a comment by Vironika Tugaleva on the post “How to Deal with a Psycho Bitch from Hell”. The more we label each other, the more we reduce each other to stereotypes and the more we barriers up the walls between each other. We have to start at compassion to be able to reach through the awful moments.

“What I found was the attitude that it’s okay for women to talk about feelings and cry for help, but men can’t.”

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This is a comment by Cy Young and Bonnie on the post “6 Ways to talk to Your Son About Male Violence and Healthy Masculinity”. What messages have you been bombarded with about violence as a man? Were you taught how to punch so you could defend yourself on the playground?

“We all are guilty of expressing raw emotion in an unproductive manner–especially in intimate relationships”

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This is a comment by Caitlin on the post “How to Deal with a Psycho Bitch from Hell”.

Watch This Love Competition Where Whoever Loves the Hardest Wins [Video]

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This touching video shows what happens in your brain when you experience love.

The Other Health Risk For Middle-Aged Men: Suicide

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Societal suppression of male emotion contributes to the 4th leading cause of death that no one talks about.

“I’ve always felt like an extreme minority as a Highly Sensitive Man.”

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These are comments by Matthew, Frank, Jeff Roth on the post “I Am a Highly Sensitive Man”.

“Depression rolls in like fog regardless of the situation. Every day is like a battle.”

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These are comments by Osnat, Jen, and Scott on the post “Darkness Falling”.

“Depression feels like drowning.”

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This is a comment by The Redhead Bedhead, Jane, and Sarah on the post “Can I Overcome Depression?”

Good Men Can Be Their Own Worst Enemies

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Men, we have met the enemy, and he is us.