The Importance of Pecking Orders to Boys

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Should parents and teachers intervene in the jockeying for status endemic among adolescent boys?

Embracing Destruction

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How do we learn to take decisive action?

“Imagine spending your day making life and death decisions for people no one has seen and then going home and trying to fit in with ‘the real world’.”

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These are comments by Lizard, Tom, and Richard Aubrey on the post “From the Office Where Soldiers Kill”.

From the Office Where Soldiers Kill

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Does it take a special kind of courage to be a combat soldier—who pulls the trigger from an office, thousands of miles away?

How to Love Fearlessly

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Do you feel secure in your relationship?

How to Become a Warrior

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The warrior is sensitive enough to discern truth, and has the courage to stand up for it.

The Ultimate Sex Game

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Laurie Watson, on using game theory to solve sexual frequency differences

Guess Who Created Your Little Bully?

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Lisa Dixon-Wells, bullying prevention expert, on bullying behavior: how it starts, where it leads, how to stop it.

The Invisible World of Rural Black America: Part 3

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Two sons of a sharecropper return to the Texas town where they grew up.

How One Person Can Improve a Relationship

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Communication skills anyone can learn to put the love back into their relationship.

Hyperarousal: Beyond Fight or Flight

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In a crisis, your choices are limited, but it’s not as bad as you think.

Valentine to My Mom

Billy Johnson II and his mother

Billy Johnson II knows how hard it was to raise him, and in recognition of the woman whose fingerprints are all over the man he is today, this year he has just one valentine: his mother.

Fire in Cholon

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An American soldier in Saigon receives an unexpected lesson in courage.

Unconquered

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Jeff Swain defines ‘unconquered,’ with some help from his friends: William Ernest ‘Captain of My Soul’ Henley and Tom Petty.

How to Deal with a Psycho Bitch from Hell

Listening

If you can’t listen to women with a higher consciousness, what you offer society as a whole is also limited, says Atalwin Pilon.

Shame Is Why We Fight

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When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.