Unhelpful Things People Say When You Have Lost a Loved One


While it’s true that no words are adequate for someone who has lost the love of his life, here are some phrases you want to avoid.

Performing Masculinity and Grief: a Death of My Own

Performing Masculinity and Grief by Hartwig HKD

Randall Horton reflects on his own experiences with grief, and wonders why being a man is to be sentenced to a life bereft of emotional support?



It’s not entirely clear who haunts Philip Clark’s coming-of-age poem more—the dead or the living.

Teaching Young Children to Say Goodbye to a Loved One

Cuz Julia's Kids - 2

Michael Carley shares his hardest conversation ever, explaining loss of a loved one to a young child.

Boys and Girls, I Have Terrible News…


Steve Jaeger remembers the day that John F. Kennedy died. Where were you?

The Cot in His Office

photo by goingsio

When Edward Severy’s father died, there were dozens of people at the funeral he had never met. They all acted like his father had never made a mistake. “Maybe I just knew a different man”, thought Edward.

Rush Limbaugh and Me on a Trip to the Cemetery

On a trip to the cemetary photo by andreweick

The Rev. Dr. Neil O’Farrell’s reverie on seeing and not-seeing.

Things I Regret


Tom Brechlin on taking things for granted, his father, and coming to terms with his biggest regret.

Bikers Guard Child’s Funeral From Westboro Baptists

nicholas scott mccabe, westboro baptist church

The Patriot Guard Riders rallied at the funeral of a child to protect his family from the protests of the Westboro Baptist Church.



“Quinn has booked a flight to Connemara, County Galway. But first, this funeral. This director. What is her name?” By Joey DeFrancesco

Life at a Funeral

photo by nicocrisafulli

“A tree doesn’t rid itself of its rings.” Brandon Ferdig is shaken by the death of his grandmother, and chooses to remember how her life connected with his.

Dead Dad’s Club: An Excerpt from BIG RAY

Big-Ray Michael Kimball

“Toward the end of the visiting hours, a woman who nobody seemed to know walked into the memorial service. She looked at me and said, You must be his son. She said, He left his mark on you.” By Michael Kimball

Ten Things I’ve Learned From My Zayde


Josh Bowman takes a moment to remember some of the things he learned from his wonderful Zayde on the ten-year anniversary of his passing.

Strange Fruit


Jackie Summers asks us to ignore, for a moment, the fact that threatening the life of a president is treason.

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Out of the Cradle


The gifts from one’s parents include passions and observations that communicate—and finally become—character and identity.

Times Change, Hate Loses to Love, and Students Protect One of Their Own


There are many signs of seismic cultural shifts, writes Eirik Rogers, the most recent being the symbolism of Texas A&M Students vs. The Westboro Baptist Church at Lt. Col. Roy Tisdale’s Funeral.