essex, jordan, and the old black man

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Luther Hughes draws together the writings of Essex Hemphill and a chance encounter on the subway to say something about love, sex, and the lives of “black boys.”

I Really Will Be Alright in the End

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I’ll feel unbound, and will write in my journal at a bar up the street from the hotel that “it’s nice to be at peace with myself,” that I’ll learn to demand a better life, that I’ll date one boy and then another… and that I really will be alright in the end.

What Kind of Gay is OK?

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When Albert came out, he discovered that people have very clear ideas on what kind of “gay” is acceptable.

Learning

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Philip Clark recalls a combative father, and the unintended lessons he learned about men and love.

Could You Be Gay And Not Know It?

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Sexual identity is a personal experience, regardless of behavior, or how others define us.

Wanted: A Groom for My Son

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A concerned mother in India posted a first…a same-sex personal ad for her single son.

In Search of Abe in Dupont Circle

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L. Lamar Wilson recounts a heady encounter between two young people who may or may not be acting as a queer mirror of Abraham Lincoln’s younger years.

10 Gay Men In Their 30s Give Advice To Their 20-Something Former Selves

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Real guys on aging, personal growth and the awesomeness of wrinkles.

On Being a Queer Prodigal Son of Appalachia

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Thomas J West III recalls growing up in a town that was not accepting of who he was.

8 Things You Should Know About Same Sex Divorce

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Everything you need to know in a same-sex divorce, from child custody to medical decisions.

Touch: A Letter to Mother

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L. Lamar Wilson writes of a gay son, an ill mother, and their deeply felt intimacy.

Straight Teen Asks His Gay Best Friend To Prom

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It’s not the usual gay-straight alliance, but it might be the most amazing.

I’m a Guy Who Came Out as Bisexual and Now Can’t Date Anyone, Gay or Straight

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In one of the proudest moments of my life, I changed my OkCupid profile from straight to bisexual.

Nowhere to Go

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Allen Fraser Clark captures the frustration and desire of young men, eager for sexual expression and frightened by it.

Can Walmart Become an Agent for Social Change?

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Can a shift in culture remake Walmart as an agent for social change?

Comment of the Day: “Life is a complex game, not a snapshot”

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This comment is by Lucas, on the post “She’s still the same person, but I just know a little more about her.”