Gay or Straight: 5 Ways Men Struggle With Their Masculinity

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Are you with me, brother?

My Father Told Me That Having a Gay Son Made Him a Better Person

Having a Gay Son Made Me a Better Person, by Eduardo Placer, Photo by Flickr-Yvette T.

I have wondered if as men we never feel “man enough” when we compare ourselves to our fathers. I came out of the closet when I was 18 years old, a freshman in college…

7 Ways To Maintain Your Masculinity When In A Relationship

How to avoid being whipped.

Owning your masculinity means being sensitive to your inner drives, including your femininity. Are you man enough to face this?

Sense8: A Sign Of The Changing Times


Not for Everyone, the show definitely seizes upon the changing attitudes of society.

Viewing Vintage Porn


By turns wistful, by turns puckish, David Bergman’s tribute to gay adult film of yesteryear is a fun twist on the language of nostalgia.

Call for Submissions: Back to School – Out in the Halls


Jr. high, high school, college, trade school, any school can be challenging for gay, bi, trans*, and queer folk. We want to hear your stories and advice.

Remembering Stephen: Love, Loss, and AIDS

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He underwent a smorgasbord of tests as the family anxiously awaited the answer. But we knew. The innocents in the old snapshot all knew instinctively, even before the test results came in. Stephen had AIDS.

The Man, the Examined Life, and My Own Heterocentricity


There is nothing so binding and divisive as our own perception of how things should be. But what do you do, as Jeremy McKeen uncovers, when you are the majority of the world’s ruling niche? — What does a Hooters full of lesbians, a bus full of Princeton University alumni, and a beach full of […]

Why This Woman Is Happily Married to a Somewhat Gay Man

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My father is gay. And so is my husband—kind of.

I’m Living Proof You Can Be Catholic AND Support Gay Marriage

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Before you nail me to a cross, hear me out.

Words of Hope for a Young Boy Who Is Gay

Words of Hope by Humans of New York

“I’m homosexual and I’m afraid about what my future will be and that people won’t like me.”

How I Learned to Have Good Sex

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Todd Clayton on a romantic experience that changed his perspective on trust, love, and sex.

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Luther Hughes draws together the writings of Essex Hemphill and a chance encounter on the subway to say something about love, sex, and the lives of “black boys.”

I Really Will Be Alright in the End


I’ll feel unbound, and will write in my journal at a bar up the street from the hotel that “it’s nice to be at peace with myself,” that I’ll learn to demand a better life, that I’ll date one boy and then another… and that I really will be alright in the end.

What Kind of Gay is OK?


When Albert came out, he discovered that people have very clear ideas on what kind of “gay” is acceptable.



Philip Clark recalls a combative father, and the unintended lessons he learned about men and love.