The Drought Left Behind by My Father’s Death

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Perhaps what I gained most from my father’s death was experiencing his humanity in real time. Not just as my dad. But as a man.

A Father’s Lament

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Being separated from your children opens a hole in your heart and in your life.

Comment of the Day: ‘One of the gifts I’ve given my daughters is allowing them to see me cry.’

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This comment was by trey1963 on the post “Gay or Straight: 5 Ways Men Struggle With Their Masculinity.”

The Growth of Grief

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Andrew Eldredge explores the time it takes to heal and move on.

How to Sit Through Grief

How to Sit by Louise Thayer

Louise Thayer finds a way to stay present through loss without letting grief become overwhelming.

Men and the Death of Their Fathers

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Men grieve their fathers on their own terms, but similarities can be found.

Stupid Things That Caring People Say About Grief

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Grief is a deeply personal process.  Common clichés do more harm than good. How to help men grieve. Many people have not lost someone close. They haven’t experienced grief, so they say things that make men who are grieving feel worse. They make us not want to share anything with them. What we need is […]

My Dad’s Great Birthday Present

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  On his late father’s birthday, a dad ponders on what he’s learned from his father. He looks at his kids, and suddenly, he knows. —   It’s my dad’s birthday today. He’d have been 74. 4 and a half years ago he woke up, had a coffee and died in his lounge room with […]

Dating After Death: When Is It Time?

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Mark Liebenow knows the struggle and has a little advice.

Why I’m Afraid of Love

Why I'm Afraid by Thomas Leth-Olsen

Entering a new relationship, Cabot O’Callaghan confronts his deepest fear.

What We Can Learn From Falling

How to Fall by Alyssa L Miller

Katie Vessel uses the metaphor of falling to develop a philosophy of resilience.

Flying Away From Love

Flying Away by Jason Pratt

For Cabot O’Callaghan and his long-distance lover, time together tastes bittersweet—and always flies too fast.

The 5 Stages of Relationship Grief

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Matt Shumate walks us through the feelings we experience on the death of a relationship.

When You Lose a Good Man: 5 Lessons for Daily Living

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You know when you’re on the phone with your favorite person in the whole world and you can tell they are getting tired, but you aren’t ready to hang up yet? That’s how it feels to be teetering on the edge of losing someone you love. It’s excruciating. In the three weeks between his cancer […]

How Photography Saved My Life After The Loss Of My Wife

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 He lost the love of his life. Little did he realize how a hobby would help him heal.  —- Everyone experiences events over the course of life that alters not only their thinking but also future actions. Most remember with vivid detail watching the Twin Towers collapse in New York City. Those in their 50’s […]

I Can’t Not Feel This

How Can I Not by Chris Pizzitola

Cabot O’Callaghan captures that moment when the tidal wave of life takes you under, and you surface, grateful to be alive.