After his father was declared an enemy of the state in Uganda, his family fled. Now a successful consultant and men’s group leader, Kenny D’Cruz continues to heal from a life marked by persecution and mental illness.
Good Grief
May 6, 2013 By 8 Comments
A generation later, Kile Ozier believes the gay community has still not healed from the ravaging shame and grief that accompanied the AIDS crisis.
3 Steps To Keep Your Ex From Making You Feel Guilty
April 8, 2013 By 2 Comments
Guilt might interfere more than any other emotion with our efforts to heal and find peace.
How Not to Cheat
March 23, 2013 By 7 Comments
Marriage is simply hard work. But the good news is that attitude is everything.
Could You Have Prevented the Steubenville Rape? [OpEd]
March 19, 2013 By 4 Comments
And who is going to protect our kids from the same fate? Will it be you?
Dear John: Haunted By Hook-Up At His Kid’s School’s Drop-Off
March 3, 2013 By 2 Comments
Someone bound to remember a regrettable hook-up, a friend who can’t take criticism, and an ill friend who guilts people into getting what she wants.
Dear John: Deathbed Confession Is Good For Whom, Exactly?
February 24, 2013 By 1 Comment
A deathbed confession of a stolen ring, gun-proofing a son’s sleepovers, and a badmouthing ex-wife.
I Need to Talk to a Man
January 5, 2013 By 3 Comments
Sometimes the best way to get rid of shame is to talk to someone who has been there.
Are American Churches As Racist As My Mom?
January 2, 2013 By 10 Comments
Fear is what we feel, denial is what we do, and defensiveness is how we do it.
Prizefighters and Poppas
December 31, 2012 By 2 Comments
What does the life deliberately and well lived look like?
Violence and Victimization: Stereotypes of Dangerous Men
December 4, 2012 By 12 Comments
Are male survivors of abuse more likely to become violent, themselves?
Fear and Loathing in Pittsburgh: The Online Mauling of a Parent Just Like You
December 2, 2012 By 67 Comments
Angry commenters rushed to persecute a woman whose son fell to his death at the Pittsburgh Zoo. If it’s true that horrific accidents could happen to any parent, why can’t we accept that?
Dear John: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do (Like, Really Hard)
November 23, 2012 By 1 Comment
Dear John addresses an unclear breakup, contacting a stranger on a train, and fighting in front of kids.
Fierce Resistance
November 21, 2012 By 19 Comments
Why do we continue to blame the victims of sexual assault?
Original Sin
November 12, 2012 By 3 Comments
To be free of the lifelong effects of a childhood failure, Albie had to do more than remember what happened.
“When my son was born I felt duty, responsibility and warmth, but I didn’t feel that passionate sense of lifelong love.”
When did you first bond with your child? Elise said that while that true love for her son eventually came to her, it wasn’t immediate. This can heap shame and guilt onto new parents and leave them feeling even more alone.