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Keep That Wanker Away from Me

May 2, 2013 By Andy Bodle 13 Comments

hooking up, the game, conflict, rage, shame, rejection, women, attracting women

Do women prefer louts? Andy Bodle’s experiment in behaving poorly makes for bad science, but a good story.

Filed Under: Dating, Featured Content, The Good Life, Womanology Tagged With: attracting women, Beer, beer goggles, card games, college life, conflict, dating, drinking, fear of rejection, hooking up, rage, rejection, rugby players, sex, sexual attraction, shame, The Game, women, women prefer assholes

Swimming with Sharks

April 25, 2013 By Andy Bodle 2 Comments

JAWS, land shark, desperation, sharking women, hooking up, college life, Womanology

“For the first time in my life, the prospect of approaching an attractive woman did not fill me with mortal dread.” For his next two years at college, Andy Bodle proceeded to do nothing but.

Filed Under: Featured Content, The Good Life, Womanology Tagged With: 1980s, approaching women, being discerning, college life, desperation, Exeter College, hooking up, Jaws, land shark, making women feel special, objectifying women, Oxford, rowing, seeking perfection, sex on the first date, sexual anxiety, sharking women, Williams College, Womanology, women's egos

Death Wish

April 18, 2013 By Andy Bodle 2 Comments

drunk driving, teens drunk driving, teens drinking, suicidal behavior, risky behavior, physical risk taking, adolescent males, competition, male sexuality

Risky behavior in adolescent males ranges from self improvement to suicidal, but the reward is the same.

Filed Under: Do Not Attempt, Featured Content, Suicide, Teenage Kicks, The Good Life, Womanology Tagged With: adolescent males, ancestral bias, attracting girls, car accidents, competition, drunk driving, evolutionary psychology, fitting in, flirting, high school drinking, hooking up, Hugh MacDiarmid, male aggression, male competition, male sexuality, male suicide, physical risk taking, poetry, risk-taking, risky behavior, running from the police, sexual aggression, sexual reproduction, suicidal behavior, suicide attempt, suicide attempts, suicide England, suicide rates in men, suicide Wales, teens drinking, teens drunk driving, testosterone, UK Office of National Statistics

What Men Really Want

March 24, 2013 By Brandy Engler 33 Comments

psychotherapy, men in therapy, men's sexuality, relationships, horny men, men want sex

Men may think what they want is shockingly antisocial, but digging deeper reveals that what men truly want is actually quite ordinary and healthy.

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, The Good Life Tagged With: being horny, book excerpt, casual sex, clients of prostitutes, dating, foreplay, hooking up, horny men, intimacy, jerking off, knowing your body, listening to your body about sex, loneliness, mail order brides, masturbation, men in therapy, men want intimacy, men want sex, men's sexuality, pornography, psychology, psychotherapy, recognizing arousal, relationships, romance, seduction, sexual arousal, sexual fantasy, sexual mindfulness, sublimation

STDs and Men’s Sexual Health: 2/12

January 28, 2013 By The Good Life @ GMP 6 Comments

The STD Project and The Good Life are sparking a conversation on male sexual health in the 21st century.

Filed Under: Calls for Submissions, Health, Psych, & Addiction, The Good Life, The Good Men Project Content Calendar Tagged With: AIDS, Call for submissions, cancer, chancroid, chlamydia, crabs, cytomegalovirus, education, genital herpes, genital warts, getting tested, gonorrhea, health, hepatitis, herpes, HIV, hooking up, HPV and men, infections, intestinal parasites, LGV, Lovers, male sexual health, Men's Health, men's reproductive health, men's sexual health, molluscum, mono, mononucleosis, mycoplasma, NGU, PID, pubic lice, relationships, scabies, Sex Ed, sex education, sexual education, sexuality, sexually transmitted diseases, STDs, STIs, super-gonorrhea, syphilis, The STD Project, Throat Cancer, trich, vaginitis

Partying Doesn’t Have to Mean Risking Rape

January 22, 2013 By Danielle Paradis 33 Comments

Can we create a safer party culture for all?

Filed Under: Featured Content, Quarter-Life Crisis, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: amnesia, blacking out, cocaine, college life, college parties, consent, date rape, dorm life, drinking, drinking problems, drug use, drunken sex, ecstasy, enthusiastic consent, fraternity life, getting high, gray rape, harm reduction, hook-up culture, hooking up, judgment, Ketamine, legitimate rape, MDMA, parties, partying, rape, rape culture, sex and drugs, sex education, underage drinking

Why I’m Quitting Drinking in 2013

January 4, 2013 By Karl Thompson 4 Comments

I’ve finally realized I’m no longer ‘one of the lads’ but a ‘binge drinking father figure.’

Filed Under: Addiction, Christmas 2012, New Years 2012, The Good Life Tagged With: addiction, adulthood, alcohol, alcoholism, bar culture, binge drinking, british, Christmas, college life, drinking, health, holiday parties, holidays, hooking up, manhood, mid-life crisis, Middle-age, New Year's Resolution, parties, pub culture, quitting drinking, role models, social drinking, teachers, UK

“Most people have to break hearts and have broken hearts to find a relationship that lasts.”

October 24, 2012 By the Editors 3 Comments

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This is a comment by Jimbo on the post “Let’s Assume I’m a Virgin”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: 20's, 30's, attractive, guys, hooking up, hot, hot sex, Husband, marriage, maturity, men, Physical Attraction, relationships, sex, sexuality, sleeping with, standards, virgin, wife, women

The Bad Man Project

September 25, 2012 By Ryan Bjorklund 2 Comments

“He wondered if the reason he felt momentarily complete during coital orgasm was that he had convinced himself that he was once again inside the womb.”

Filed Under: moustacheclubofamerica Tagged With: acceptance, awkward hook-ups, Bad Men Project, bad relationships, becoming a man, conflicted emotions, depression, Family Law, fiction, happiness, hooking up, lawyers, loneliness, Moustache Club, Moustache Club of America, one-night stands, Ryan Björklund, short stories, stories about gender and sexuality, Volkswagen, Weekend Fiction

The Secret to an Amazing Hook Up

August 4, 2012 By Dave Booda 13 Comments

Start the conversation with the right question, and be open to the answer.

Filed Under: Editors' Picks, Featured Content, Sex & Relationships Tagged With: communication, consent, Courtship, cuddling, dating, empowerment, expectations, Great Sex, hanging out, hooking up, intimacy, kink, massage, power, regret, resentment, sex

Dating Fiction: The Introduction of the Designated Hitter

August 2, 2012 By Oliver Lee Bateman Leave a Comment

“They came up to his apartment, they said and did a few things with him, and then they went home.”

Filed Under: moustacheclubofamerica Tagged With: back-door men, bad relationships, cheating, confusion, depression, Emily Twiggs, flash fiction, hooking up, infidelity, Moustache Club of America, Oliver Lee Bateman, refusal to commit, toe beans, unhappiness, Weekend Fiction

Is Feminism to Blame for Hook-Up Culture? A Debate

December 18, 2011 By Neely Steinberg 129 Comments

Neely Steinberg and Hugo Schwyzer discuss how their personal histories have shaped their individual world views.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Sex & Relationships Tagged With: feminism, hooking up, Hugo Schwyzer, jessica valenti, neely steinberg, Sex and Relationships

Dear John: He’s a Dear, Sweet Man, but Terrible in Bed

September 7, 2011 By John Simpson, GoLocalProv.com Leave a Comment

Should he be hooking up with women at work? How do I tell my ex-lover that I am no longer interested in sex with him? Advice on this and more from Dear John.

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions Tagged With: Advice & Confessions, dear john, friendship, golocalprov, hooking up, John Simpson, lying, relationships, sex

Dear John: Everything’s Great but the Sex

September 2, 2011 By John Simpson, GoLocalProv.com 3 Comments

Should a boyfriend stop hooking up with his ex, even though the sex with his new girlfriend is merely adequate? What should a 28-year-old virgin expect from a new school year? Advice on this and more from Dear John.

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions Tagged With: dating, dear john, eating, ex-girlfriend, hooking up, parenting, Sex and Relationships, vacation, virginity

Yoga: The Studio as Singles Scene

April 29, 2011 By Robert Steven Williams 10 Comments

The yoga studio is filled with sexual tension. Is it a good place for guys to meet women?

Filed Under: Sports Tagged With: dating, hooking up, men, relationships, sex, spirituality, women, yoga

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