The Utility of Violent Porn


Under what circumstances is it acceptable to simulate non-consensual or violent sex?

On Withholding Sex

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Joanna Schroeder offers a practical guideline to couples who are challenged with mis-matched libidos.

Demanding Feminist Perfection From Men

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Lynn Beisner knows her husband isn’t the perfect feminist, but he is the best man she could imagine loving.

What Is a Good Man?


With quotes from friends and famous folks alike, Tom Matlack finds that defining goodness is not science, it’s art.

The Dark Side of Women’s Requests of Progressive Men


Mark Greene asks, “Do some women who encourage men to be more emotional and engaged, end up losing respect for the men who do so?”

Are Men Needy? No, Men are Good!


Men aren’t needy. Men yearn for love of all kinds—romantic, sexual, fatherly, in work, in friendship.

The Best of GMP’s Family and Relationship Writing

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Some of our favorite stories about men’s relationships with the partners and their families.

Louis CK and the Brilliantly-Crafted Feminism vs Comedy Joke

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Joanna Schroeder thinks feminists should take another look at the Louis CK joke that pits feminists against comedy.

Men and Feminism: A Good Men Project Roundtable

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If there’s one thing we’re all about here at the Good Men Project, it’s discussion.

Why Being a Good Man is Not a Feminist Issue


In the end I think we all want the same thing: a new kind of macho in which men are allowed to express themselves as fully formed human beings who change diapers, are capable of intimacy, do meaningful work, and aspire to goodness in whatever way they define it.

Men’s Goodness Hinges on Hearing Women’s Voices: A Response to Tom Matlack

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Hugo Schwyzer sees a world where men can be better, happier and different by including women’s voices in the telling of stories about men.

Brian Presley and Melissa Stetten: Two Jerks Don’t Make a Right

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Joanna Schroeder resents that passive-aggressive live-tweeter Melissa Stetten is being held up as some sort of model of feminist activism.

The Tyranny of the Six Pack?

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An examination of men’s relationship with body images and and excerpt from Hugo Schwyzer’s critique of Noah Brand’s body image project “I’m Stark Naked: Deal With It”.

Open Thread: Could a Female Editor-in-Chief Get Away With Full Frontal Like Noah Brand Did?


Let’s be honest with ourselves here… If it were one of the female editors here at GMP, would we be considered cheap, or slutty for posing nude? Would we be picked apart for our flaws in a way that Noah is not?

Parsing the Hard Science of

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When considering the “Cheating Dads of Brooklyn” be wary of soft data and hard ambitions.

On “Creep” and “Creep-Shaming”

In this recent Jezebel article, Hugo Schwyzer discusses the insult “creep” and MRA backlash against “creep-shaming.” All quotes below are from Schwyzer’s article. Schwyzer claims that men dislike “creep” more than most insults because “[‘creep’] isn’t rooted in misogyny,” and, instead, names “how [a man] makes women feel.” It “forces men to reflect carefully about […]