The One Thing Crucial to Moving Forward After Being Hurt

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The hardest part of moving forward is allowing ourselves to forgive, Orin J Hahn has a few role models on why that is the most important step.

An Open Letter to My Husband: You Are My Soft Place to Fall

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Catherine O’Kane has been hurt and frustrated by some of her husband’s choices. But in her eyes, his strengths far outweigh his failures.

Man On Fire: The Destructive Power Of Self-Mutilation

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After he lost his brother, Jarad Dewing tried everything to release the pain locked inside of him.

Words: More Powerful Than I Ever Knew

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As Christian Coleman searches for the right words in his marriage, he learns the way they can destroy and heal.

Change Starts With Me

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A dislocated knee helped Christian Clifton realize that whatever blame can be placed at the time of a traumatic incident, it is up to him to take the actions needed to heal.

You Don’t Really Want Them to Understand

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Kevin Macku examines internet and domestic conflicts from an actor’s perspective, and shows that arguments often run deeper than the surface.

Another Morning in the Zendo

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Nightmares of betrayal leave me with a sense of distrust and sadness.

“Trying to calm down someone throwing a tantrum over his pizza having incorrect toppings is not gaslighting.”

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A handful of examples that explain what gaslighting is and is not.

Adolescent Regrets: Call for Submission Due 7/13

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What do you regret from your teen years? If you could go back, what would you do differently?

“When we refuse to see the human in the monster, we all suffer.”

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This is a comment by KKZ on the post “Men and Goodness”.

“‘F*ck” is often used violently. ‘Making love’ seems more consensual, creative and equal.”

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This is a comment by James on the post “F***ing and Making Love: What’s the Difference, Men?”.

Ending Homophobia, One Brother at a Time

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The key to ending homophobia might be to open the conversation and create safe spaces.

“I get frustrated with the attempts to push men to be ‘more open’ about their feelings.”

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This is a comment by Alastair on the Comment of the Day: “Since I wasn’t crying, I felt like my emotions were minimized because I’m a man.”

Bastards Invited

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John Taylor raises both hands and admits that he is a contender for Tool of the Year.