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How I Quit Writing

May 17, 2013 By Timothy Stobierski 2 Comments

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Fed up with rejection, Tim Stobierski quits writing, and discovers that there are some things you can’t stop doing without changing who you are.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Quitting, The Good Life, Trending Tagged With: calling, career, dealing with rejection, getting published, I am writing, identity, literary life, literary men, mastery, Mastery and Mimicry, men who write, men who write poetry, passion, poets, practice, quitting, rejection, rejection letters, vocation, why I write, writer's block, writers

LGBTQ Mentoring Program Transforms Life for Chicago Students

May 8, 2013 By Abigail Ortlieb 6 Comments

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Lincoln Park High School is a pioneer for a new type of LGBTQ club that gives individuals the support they seek.

Filed Under: Good Feed Blog Tagged With: advocacy, Chicago, Christy Walker, gay, gay pride, gay-straight alliance, gender, Gender Identity, GSA, gslen, high school, identity, lesbian, LGBT, LGBTQ, lincoln park, mentoring, orientation, queer, sexual orientation, transgender

Thunderstruck: Part 2

April 29, 2013 By Jason Kapcala 3 Comments

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Jason Kapcala hopes lightning strikes twice, as he prepares to negotiate for his next dream car.

Filed Under: Men and Machines, The Good Life Tagged With: car buying, Dodge Challenger, Dodge Magnum, getting cheated, identity, Jeep Cherokee, men and cars, negotiating for a used car, possessions, sports cars, used car salemen stories, wheeling and dealing

Who Is Greater?

April 27, 2013 By Tynan Power 3 Comments

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What makes someone like Dzhokhar Tsarnaev vulnerable to radicalization? A Muslim American parent of two young men asks a question that strikes close to home.

Filed Under: Conflict, Ethics & Values, Featured Content, Spirituality & Ethics, The Good Life Tagged With: Acts of Faith, anti-Muslim hate, binary thinking, Boston bombings, Boston Common, Boston Marathon bombers, Boston Pride, boys and video games, college life, crime, drug use, Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, Eboo Patel, faith and teens, hate crimes, Heba Abobalan, identity, interfaith activism, Islam, justice, koran, marijuana, model immigrants, model Muslims, Muslim families, Muslim family life, Muslim-Americans, peace, prayer, Quran, radical Islam, runners, running, shoplifting, Tamerlan Tsarnaev, teenage boys, terrorism, Tsarnaev brothers, violence

The Impossibility of the Closet

April 26, 2013 By Oliver Lee Bateman 4 Comments

The “is he or isn’t he?” saga of former NFL All-Pro Kerry Rhodes suggests that keeping silent about one’s sexuality may no longer be an option.

Filed Under: Featured Content, moustacheclubofamerica Tagged With: Alan Gendreau, Brittney Griner, Chris Culliver, closet, Ethics and Values, gay athletes, gay players in NFL, gays in NFL, George Nader, Good Sports, Henry Rollins, identity, Jesse Jackson, Kerry Rhodes, LGBT, LGBTQIA, Marcus Vick, men and sports, Michael Vick, Moustache Club, Moustache Club of America, nfl, Oliver Lee Bateman, outing, privacy, pumping iron, Rock Hudson, Scientology, sexual orientation, sexuality, should I remain in the closet?, sports, sports and homosexuality, Wesley Morris

Jane Doe, You Are Not Alone

April 20, 2013 By James A. Landrith 8 Comments

James Landrith offers words of support to a young girl who was not only a victim, but was blamed for being so.

Filed Under: Featured Content, On Rape and Sexual Violence Tagged With: apology, identity, Jane Doe, rape, sexual assault, Steubenville, Survivor, sympathy, trauma, victim blaming

Is American Hyphenated?

April 10, 2013 By Tony Peluso 2 Comments

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An Aussie soldier challenges his Yank counterpart to drop the hyphen from his American identity.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Male Toughness, On Race, The Good Life, Travel, War, What's Your Fight? Tagged With: 173rd Airborne Brigade, 1960s, American identity, anti-Italian slurs, Army culture, australia, Australian culture, Bondi Beach, Boxing Day, Carlton-Rex Hotel, christmas vacation, cocktails, diggers, doing shots, drinking beer, drinking stories, ethnic slurs, hyphenated Americans, identity, immigration, Italian immigrants, Italian-Americans, Midnight Mass, National Pride, New South Wales, partying, R&R stories, Racism, Returned and Services League, RSL, soldiers, strine, Sydney, Tamarama Beach, Tasman Sea, Vietnam War, Vietnam War era, Vietnam War stories, War, war stories

I Can Finally Say I Am Proud to Be a Man

April 9, 2013 By Laurence Best 13 Comments

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A lifetime of homophobia had beaten down Larry Best, but with the help of a friend, he has regained pride in his manhood.

Filed Under: Editors' Picks, Featured Content, Gay Dad Project, Gay Pride, The Good Life Tagged With: acceptance, anal sex, character, civil rights, coming out, confidence, defining manhood, denial, Don't Say Gay legislation, friendship, gay coming of age, gay dads, gay dads project, gay fathers, gay lawyers, gay manhood, gay marriage, gay masculinity, gay men, gay men married to women, gay pride, gay puberty, gay sex, gay stereotypes, gender stereotypes, identity, lawyers, legal rights, male femininity, male feminists, male friendships, male pride, manhood, masculinity, Men and Feminism, men's friendships, platonic friendships, Sex and Relationships, sexual taboos, sexually passive men, sexually submissive men, shame

“As a stay-at-home dad I always felt the need to justify why, and it’s because certain d-bags identify being a man by their job.”

April 2, 2013 By the Editors 1 Comment

This is a comment by on the post “”Stay at Home Dads Can’t Be Content”: You Can’t Be Serious”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: being a man, being a parent, career, children, dads, explaining, fatherhood, fathers, identity, job, kids, manhood, men, parenting, parents, raising kids

What Does It Mean to Be a Man? U of Calgary Students Respond

April 2, 2013 By The Good Life @ GMP 4 Comments

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How do students feel about manhood and masculinity today?

Filed Under: Featured Content, Men and Masculinity, Quarter-Life Crisis, The Good Life Tagged With: beauty, character, Communications students masculinity, dating, equal rights, feminine men, femininity masculinity, feminism masculinity, feminist goals, future SAHDs, Gender equality, gender stereotypes, heroes, history, Homer Simpson, human behavior, identity, James Bond, justin bieber, Lord Byron Batman, male dominated professions, male stereotypes, man code, Man up, manhood, marketing masculinity, masculine heroes, masculinity, men, men's studies, modern heroes, philosophy students masculinity, relationships, students manhood, The Gauntlet, The Good Life, traditional masculinity, University of Calgary men, War, young men feminism

Owning Whiteness

April 2, 2013 By Justin Cascio 20 Comments

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Rather than defend against the charge, Justin Cascio attempts to define and possess his Whiteness.

Filed Under: Assumed Identities, On Race, The Good Life Tagged With: American Dream, American identity, animal farm, consciousness raising, converts, Dreams of My Father, Enlightenment, eradicating racism, expatriates, Faith, feminism, feminist men, gay white men, George Orwell, George W. Bush, identity, institutionalized racism, Manifest Destiny, Outsiders, passing, patriarchy, post-Columbian America, power, racial colorblindness, Racism, religion, social justice, the man, US history, white is a color, white men racism, white people, white people on race, White Privilege, white shame, whiteness

The Solid Masculine

March 10, 2013 By Shalom Ormsby 4 Comments

What does solid masculine energy look like, what are its key qualities? Shalom Ormsby, with an invitation to explore.

Filed Under: What's Good About Masculinity? Tagged With: attachement, cultural expectations, Eckhart Tolle, identity, mahatma gandhi, manhood, masculine, masculinity, presnce, service, Shalom Ormsby, Stereotypes

About My Sentence

February 24, 2013 By Spoon Jackson 1 Comment

Spoon Jackson, who has served 34 years of a life sentence in prison, faces the reality of his fate.

Filed Under: Poet Behind Bars, Prison, The Good Life Tagged With: artists, breaking up, California State Prison, Freedom, grace, hope, identity, institutional racism, loneliness, men in prison, parole, penitentiary, prison life, Prisoners, reality, relationships, solitude

How to Achieve Your Potential As a Man

February 23, 2013 By Atalwin Pilon 16 Comments

Atalwin Pilon had an awakening that changed him. And he’d like to share.

Filed Under: Featured Content, What's Good About Masculinity? Tagged With: anger, Atalwin Pilon, authenticity, awakening, fearless, identity, manhood, men, Sex and Relationships, Workshops

Hyperarousal: Beyond Fight or Flight

February 20, 2013 By Justin Cascio 2 Comments

In a crisis, your choices are limited, but it’s not as bad as you think.

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, Featured Content, Health, Psych, & Addiction, The Good Life Tagged With: 9 to 5, acute stress response, adrenalin, adrenaline, amygdala, crisis, critical thinking skills, daily grind, deer in headlights, defenses, ego death, emergency, emergency response, emotional intelligence, evolutionary psychology, fight or flight, Fighting, hyperarousal, identity, karoshi, litigiousness, manhood, masculinity, mental health, overwork, problem-solving, psychology, PTSD, road rage, self defense, state of emergency, Stress, stress symptoms, submission, threats, trauma

Welcoming the New Generation of Highly Sensitive Men

January 31, 2013 By Rick Belden 23 Comments

Rick Belden gives readers a name for what they have always known about themselves.

Filed Under: Health, Psych, & Addiction, Quarter-Life Crisis, Smashing Male Stereotypes, The Good Life Tagged With: #HSP, anxiety, Chrisi Brand, highly sensitive men, highly sensitive people, highly sensitive person, identity, Introversion, introverts, masculinity, Rick Belden, self image, sensitivity, social media, The Good Men Project, Twitter, xoJane.com

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