Seeing Privilege as Myth: How Men Can Be Better Allies For Women


A man’s harassment of a female bartender inspired Sincere Kirabo to learn from women how men can help.

My Transman Identity


Anthony Doubek invites you to join in the revolution of rejecting gender confinement and creating space for new identities.

That’s So Raven—On Keeping Whiteness at a High Premium


Billy Flood hopes someday Raven-Symoné will look in the mirror and be proud of the Black gay woman she is.

When Social Justice Forgets Its Compassion

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Kimberly Foster of won’t march on behalf of Eric Garner, because she’s only concerned with women at the moment.

What a BuzzFeed Quiz Taught Me About Privilege


BuzzFeed’s “How Privileged Are You?” quiz exposed to Pauline Gaines the blind spots in her understanding of privilege. She also discovered the ominous limitations of such a test.

On Not Speaking For Other People


Are you speaking up for others, or are you shouting them down?

Dominant Group Privilege: Contextual, Conditional, Intersectional


To fully understand privilege we must break through its hard outer shell.

What Happens When White Fathers Leave Their Black Daughters?

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Bea Hinton grew up hoping her white father would show up on the doorstep and whisk her away into a happy white family, the kind she sees on TV. That never happened. Here’s what did.

I Almost Witnessed a Hate Crime

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“I am a person of color and I am gay, and I live within a LGBTQ community that seems to not be able to reconcile that.”

Intersectionality: Challenging Though Essential for Liberation

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Warren Blumenfeld with a personal essay on where our social identities come from and how we live with them.

Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies


Yolo Akili explores how gay men’s sexism and male privilege shows up in relationship to women.

Litterbox Guarding


Questioning someone’s right to be in a public restroom is a form of bullying.

Why They Call It Intersectionality


Ally Fogg provides a powerful metaphor for the traffic life throws at us from different directions.

The Place Where Things Collide

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Lisa Hickey explores the intersectionality of issues on The Good Men Project: race, gender, fatherhood, language, prejudices, sexuality

Social Justice 101 Part 2: Agents of Kyriarchy

Someone might notice that, when I talk about kyriarchy, the passive voice happens a lot. “People with disabilities are denied accommodations.” “Queer people are made to feel weird and outcast.” “People of color are sometimes asked to speak for their entire race.” Sometimes it’s not passive voice. Sometimes I use “society” or “cultural narratives” or […]

Social Justice 101 Part One: I Blame the Kyriarchy

I have decided it has been entirely too long since I wrote a giant-ass series. (Yes, people in the back, I can hear you groaning.) In short, I now think it is time for a giant-ass series about my premises and ideas on social justice and gender egalitarianism. Part One: The Kyriarchy!