Skillful dominance requires confidence and sensitivity. Are you bringing it, every step of the way?
Liking Porn and Loving Women: My Day as an Ethical Porn Star
January 11, 2013 By 12 Comments
Kink.com claims that they go out of their way to respect models’ boundaries. Ezra Crane decided to find out firsthand.
Just Doing My Job
January 9, 2013 By 12 Comments
Justin Cascio’s life has been changed by the writers who reveal their own lives—and the taboos of our society.
Are You Dating a Serial Killer? Psychology Today Thinks You Might Be.
January 5, 2013 By 9 Comments
Charles Emrich is here to help you come to grips with the Bateman-esque monster Psychology Today thinks you’ve fallen for. Sometimes you have to expose yourself to awful things to remind yourself that they exist, that evil exists. Past the darkness at the end of the streetlights, you can hear it. It’s out there in [...]
Women in Porn
November 1, 2012 By 120 Comments
Suburban wife, mother, and sex worker Elle Lynn Stanger talks about the women and men who make and use porn.
On Publishing ‘Sex and Snuff: What Dying Twice Taught Me About Eroticized Death’
October 22, 2012 By 13 Comments
Senior Editor Joanna Schroeder explains why she believes the voices of those who star in porn are crucial to the conversation about what is and is not acceptable in pornography.
Sex and Snuff: What Dying Twice Taught Me About Eroticized Death
October 22, 2012 By 35 Comments
Olivia Davis has done two modeling gigs involving her pretending to be dead. One was beautiful, one was ugly.
I F—-d a Girl and I Think I Didn’t Like It
October 20, 2012 By 9 Comments
Everyone’s tastes are different.
Can Men Tell The Truth About Sex?
October 1, 2012 By 294 Comments
Where are the male voices debating contemporary sexuality? No, really, where are they?
Burned Feet and Compassion: the Emotional Experience of Extreme Sex
September 27, 2012 By 7 Comments
Noah Brand comments on a Jezebel article about a man whose sexual rituals include having his feet burned with cigarettes.
You’re Never Not What You Are
September 12, 2012 By 13 Comments
Young self-identified masters and dominants often have to fight for their identities BDSM spaces. Olivia Davis looks at why that’s wrong. In some ways, BDSM is a subculture of title and tradition. The rigid backbone of many kink organizations is Leather—regimented, highly organized Leather. Dating back to WWII vets desperately seeking military structure in their [...]
I Don’t Want to Be Her S&Master
August 14, 2012 By 15 Comments
A guy wonders how to handle his girlfriend who wants to have a master/slave relationship. Josie and Eli call in Noah Brand for a third opinion from inside the world of kink.
Why “Unbirthing” Is Good For Everybody
August 6, 2012 By 3 Comments
Is it too late in the game to say “the internet changes things?” I know that’s very late-nineties-trend-piece of me, but it’s still going on and we’re still discovering what it means. Our dull, meaty monkey brains just move so much slower than the things we make with them. So, for now, I’m going to [...]
The Secret to an Amazing Hook Up
August 4, 2012 By 13 Comments
Start the conversation with the right question, and be open to the answer.
Human First, Dom Second
July 29, 2012 By 17 Comments
What does it mean that the popular image of the male dominant is a paragon of sadistic power?
“My best casual sex was after flirtatious bar conversation and chat about sexual preferences, arm in arm, going to their place.”
These are comments by SecondBeach, John, and Mike on the post “On Women and Casual Sex – Part II: Flings, One Night Stands and Same Night Lays”.