The Surprising One Thing NOT to Say When Someone Comes Out as Gay

You think you’re helping, but it actually really hurts.

On Parenting and Compulsory Heterosexuality

The assumption of heterosexuality might seem incredibly harmless, because it’s so pervasive and it’s “the norm.”

Recovery, Brexit and Finding Yourself

Recovery is not about how much you know, it is about finding yourself again.

When You Come From a Culture That Does Not See Men Holding Hands as Gay, but You, In Fact Are

This is about men holding hands. In India, where I grew up, men showing affection this way was common and not construed as homosexual activity. I look back on how I interpreted this social action differently and how it has shaped me today as a gay man.

4 Horrifying Ways The Hate In Orlando Happens Every. Single. Day.

The horror wasn’t a “one time thing”. Just the first time the world seems to be paying attention.

A Second Look: Orlando and the Fight for Human Rights

Love is the defense against hate and bias.

What We Have Here is an Epic Parenting Fail

It really is this simple. Prejudice has to be taught; it is not an inherent condition.

How to Beat the Boogeyman, Even When He’s Real

When you’re a 6’2″ 210-pound, gay, black male the bad guys might be out to get you. But you can still have an open heart.

Dear Offended Christian, From a Very Tired Christian

John Pavlovitz pens a letter to those with damaging “Christian” beliefs.

Fathers, Shooters, and Good Men: A Call to Action

In the culture that created the shooter at Pulse Orlando, healing toxic masculinity starts with how we raise our boys.

Being a Transgender Man Does Not Make Me Less WORTHY of Love

Why was dating so much easier when I was living as female?

Anderson Cooper Tearfully Profiles Each of the LGBTQ Night Club Slain

“We want you to hear their names”

Philadelphia Mayor Among Attendees at Orlando Shooting Vigil

At a vigil for the victims of the Orlando mass shooting, the Mayor of Philadelphia looked profoundly sad while the City Council President appeared exasperated.

When Can Getting a Vasectomy Make a Man a Hero?

Yes, 19 people can cause terrible suffering, but a million men working together, aggregating their individual acts of kindness into a global movement for social good, is infinitely more powerful.

The Deadly Business of Legitimizing Hate

There are those businesses we love to hate—and then there are those whose business is hate.

In Defense of Driftwood

Peter LaBerge’s poem resonates painfully with the Orlando shooting and with the broader culture of LGBTQ victimization which enabled it.