Men and Pornography — The Good Men Project

Real Men Competing With Porn Stars?

April 25, 2013 By Georgia Platts 46 Comments

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What happens when men’s ideas about sex and intimacy are formed while watching porn?

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Philip Werner Talks Vaginas, Nakedness & Body Image

December 20, 2012 By Philip Werner 30 Comments

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The taboos around our bodies, and around the vagina, in particular, allow shame to flourish. Could embracing the vagina eradicate sexual violence?

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The Myth of One-Size-Fits-All Sex

December 20, 2012 By Robert Reece 6 Comments

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Sexual instruction manuals perpetuate the notion that, despite the apparent diversity of ways to have sex, there’s just one right way for men to be lovers.

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My Husband Live-Chats with Porn Girls

November 9, 2012 By She Said He Said 47 Comments

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Watching porn is one thing. Live -chatting with sex workers is another.

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Why We Crave Porn

November 8, 2012 By Josh Merel 19 Comments

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Although we treat porn as a commodity, it is actually a deeply desired human interaction.

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The Utility of Rape Porn

November 7, 2012 By Justin Cascio 73 Comments

Under what circumstances is it acceptable to simulate non-consensual or violent sex?

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Would the Buddha Look at Porn?

November 6, 2012 By Keith Andresen 33 Comments

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On the question of porn, Buddhist American Keith Andresen is torn between culture and faith.

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Confessions of a Recovered Porn Addict

November 5, 2012 By Ben Belenus 20 Comments

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To prepare myself for writing today I watched some Internet porn.

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Pornography Ended My Marriage

November 4, 2012 By Kristin S. Luce 88 Comments

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Is porn a good thing?

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Our Porn, Ourselves

November 3, 2012 By Charlie Glickman 13 Comments

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Charlie Glickman maps the sexist anti-porn arguments of radical feminist Robert Jensen.

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How to (Not) Become a Male Pornstar

November 2, 2012 By Chris Wiewiora 4 Comments

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Ever watched porn and thought, ‘I could do this, easy’?

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Women in Porn

November 1, 2012 By Elle Lynn Stanger 120 Comments

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Suburban wife, mother, and sex worker Elle Lynn Stanger talks about the women and men who make and use porn.

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Fear the Towel

October 31, 2012 By Nathan Graziano 11 Comments

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What goes down when the towel goes up at male strip clubs?

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A Brief History of Porn

October 30, 2012 By Noah Brand 26 Comments

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Erotic art has existed throughout human history. (Even before the internet.)

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A LOLcat Perspective on Purr-nography

October 29, 2012 By Marcus Williams 7 Comments

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Marcat LOLliams iz in ur porn stash, hazzing opinions, taking catnaps, and chasing shiny spots.

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October 28, 2012 By Rick Belden 12 Comments

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One man’s pleasureland is another man’s nightmare.

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