Time To ‘Man Up’


I’m not talking about some testosterone-fueled call to action that promotes suppression of emotion or pain. I’m talking about truly “manning up” and creating the type of change we need.

Why I’m the Man You Deserve, But Not the Man You Want Right Now

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You could be clear on what you’re looking for in a partner, but unable to make it work because the person isn’t. Sometimes, you’re exactly who he or she needs, but not what he or she wants.



Matthew Lippman considers the needs, desires, and experiences of a broad range of men in this searching poem.

5 Signs You’re Being Needy and What to Do About It

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It took Myke Macapinlac getting (and losing) his girlfriend to make him realize what was at the root of his needy behaviour.

7 Types of Toxic People in Your Life Whose Approval You Don’t Need

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Don’t worry about others, do you.

Addition by Subtraction


When you subtract the desire, you can subtract possessions, and leave your mind, heart, and life free. Then the possibilities are endless.

10 Ways To Learn More About Your Intimate Other

The more I know about you the closer I feel.

Steven Lake realizes the more he learns about his partner, the more he learns about himself.

How My 91 Year Old Relative Showed Me The Secret To A Powerful Relationship

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Graham Phoenix explores the difference between loneliness and aloneness, and discovers how dependency can destroy a relationship.

Sex at Sixty: Need vs Want

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A committed relationship allows for sexual transformation.

Getting What We Need is Better Than Getting What We Want

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Vaughan Granier discusses manipulation in the workplace.

“Our society expects a man to succeed or fail on his own merit alone, and if a man does not succeed, we cast him aside.”


This is a comment by Jonathan G on the post “Young Men Committing Violence: How Have We Failed Our Boys?”

Communicating a Need


While some ideas drown in noise, 1BlueString is bringing the voices of the 1in6 men that have been sexually abused to the surface.