Before You Fight, Question the Intent

Pausing to think before saying something requires self-control in the short run but long-term results will prove very satisfying.

How Your Focus Affects Your Relationship

Thomas Fiffer draws a distinction between need-focused and love-focused partners.

Letting Go of the Need for Control

I don’t have to act. I can just sit.

Look for Someone You Admire, Not Someone You Think You Need

Ray Jennings redefines what we should look for in a life partner.

Time To ‘Man Up’

I’m not talking about some testosterone-fueled call to action that promotes suppression of emotion or pain. I’m talking about truly “manning up” and creating the type of change we need.

Why I’m the Man You Deserve, But Not the Man You Want Right Now

You could be clear on what you’re looking for in a partner, but unable to make it work because the person isn’t. Sometimes, you’re exactly who he or she needs, but not what he or she wants.


Matthew Lippman considers the needs, desires, and experiences of a broad range of men in this searching poem.

5 Signs You’re Being Needy and What to Do About It

It took Myke Macapinlac getting (and losing) his girlfriend to make him realize what was at the root of his needy behaviour.

7 Types of Toxic People in Your Life Whose Approval You Don’t Need

Don’t worry about others, do you.

Addition by Subtraction

When you subtract the desire, you can subtract possessions, and leave your mind, heart, and life free. Then the possibilities are endless.

10 Ways To Learn More About Your Intimate Other

Steven Lake realizes the more he learns about his partner, the more he learns about himself.

How My 91 Year Old Relative Showed Me The Secret To A Powerful Relationship

Graham Phoenix explores the difference between loneliness and aloneness, and discovers how dependency can destroy a relationship.

Sex at Sixty: Need vs Want

A committed relationship allows for sexual transformation.

Getting What We Need is Better Than Getting What We Want

Vaughan Granier discusses manipulation in the workplace.

“Our society expects a man to succeed or fail on his own merit alone, and if a man does not succeed, we cast him aside.”

This is a comment by Jonathan G on the post “Young Men Committing Violence: How Have We Failed Our Boys?”

Communicating a Need

While some ideas drown in noise, 1BlueString is bringing the voices of the 1in6 men that have been sexually abused to the surface.