Senior Editor Joanna Schroeder explains why she believes the voices of those who star in porn are crucial to the conversation about what is and is not acceptable in pornography.
On Publishing ‘Sex and Snuff: What Dying Twice Taught Me About Eroticized Death’
October 22, 2012 By 13 Comments
Sex and Snuff: What Dying Twice Taught Me About Eroticized Death
October 22, 2012 By 35 Comments
Olivia Davis has done two modeling gigs involving her pretending to be dead. One was beautiful, one was ugly.
Five Things I Didn’t Know About My Body
September 17, 2012 By 33 Comments
They say female sexuality is mysterious. Olivia Davis explores some things about female sexuality and anatomy that even she didn’t know.
You’re Never Not What You Are
September 12, 2012 By 13 Comments
Young self-identified masters and dominants often have to fight for their identities BDSM spaces. Olivia Davis looks at why that’s wrong. In some ways, BDSM is a subculture of title and tradition. The rigid backbone of many kink organizations is Leather—regimented, highly organized Leather. Dating back to WWII vets desperately seeking military structure in their [...]
When Chauvinism Ruled My Life
August 29, 2012 By 29 Comments
Olivia Davis discusses her year long brush with modern chauvinism in the form of a boy she liked.
In Defense of Demisexuality
August 8, 2012 By 93 Comments
Obviously, I am obsessed with sex and the politics of sex. I spend large chunks of my day staring at arguments about sex, kink, and gender. Equally immoderate chunks of my night are spent writing about those things. Sometimes, I even have sex. I think it’s serious business. But I have a dark, secret heart [...]
Fifty Shades of Grey is Unintelligible as a Novel
July 26, 2012 By 11 Comments
Warning: This is not a post about gender, sex, or towering rage. It’s basically a piece of literary criticism. Also, some spoilers follow. So, as Charles creepily informed you, we’ve been reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Presently, we’re actually a bit of the way into sequel Fifty Shades Darker. Once we finish the trilogy, we’re going to [...]
A Farewell
July 25, 2012 By Leave a Comment
Dear Tumblr, We’re leaving you. We’re going to brighter, bigger pastures, that have better interfaces, commenting systems that make any goddamn sense, and fewer .gif walls. We’re leaving you. For wordpress. Seriously, though. To our shock, delight, and moderate trepidation, Gen!Der!Fight! has been picked up by the Good Men Project, so the whole blog is [...]
P!nk: Lady Warrior, Femmephobe
July 7, 2012 By Leave a Comment
Femmephobia is a trouble that I look on with no small amount of sympathy. In this lovely article from No Seriously, What AboutTeh Menz? Ozy Frantz discusses how, when zie was in high school, zie was a “Cool Chick.” Zie mocked other girls for their stereotypically feminine presentation and behavior and “adopt[ed] male gender norms [...]
Some Thoughts and Questions About BDSM PR
July 5, 2012 By Leave a Comment
In December while visiting his family for the holidays, Charles and I stopped by the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago. The LA&M is a small, but scrupulously kept museum nestled in with a bunch of apartment complexes. The museum is identifiable by its sign bearing a gigantic boot, as well the resemblance of the [...]
Don’t Get Raped, Not Don’t Rape
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The Story of Us
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Why I Cringe When Someone Tells Me To “Educate Myself.”
June 4, 2012 By Leave a Comment
Someone (you know who you are) showed me and Charles the pretty amazing meme Tumblr. I worry it makes us and this post irrelevant and sad, but we’re gonna soldier on. So, let’s do it. It’s time for Olivia to examine feminist and SJ discursive paradigms that are terrible and harmful! Woo. I hate “go do [...]
The Mainstream and the BDSM Bubble
June 2, 2012 By 1 Comment
Something that is true about people in kink[1] is that, almost universally, we are afraid. We are socially afraid of what will happen if our friends or family members figure out what it is that we do for fun. We are financially afraid of losing our jobs if our predilections come to light. Some of us [...]
“When I went to forgive those who had bullied me in school, they had no idea what they had done to me.”
This is a comment by Anonymous on the post “Should We Forgive Apologetic Bullies?”