How the Word ‘Victim’ Can Make Rape Feel Like It’s Your Fault

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Rape ‘survivor’ Dani Bostick claims the label victim, but she doesn’t let it shame or define her.

Join Me in the Classroom, Mayor Hamilton, and Tell My Students to “Grow a Pair”

Porterville, California, Mayor, Cameron Hamilton, grow a pair

Porterville County Mayor Cameron Hamilton’s message to targets of bullying generalizes and negates the bullied child’s experience.

“A deliberate choice to stalk, physically overpower, and rape her is not a circumstance where an apology will do.”

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This is a comment by Chloe on the post “I Know Who You Raped Last Summer”.

Simulated Assault: My Life as a Self-Defense Instructor

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Meron Langsner plays the perpetrator in reversals of attempted assault.

Simulated Assault: My Life as a Self-Defense Instructor

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Meron Langsner plays the perpetrator in reversals of attempted assault.

“Until someone has experienced my horrors, no one has the right to tell me to forgive.”

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This is a comment by W.R.R. on the post “Why Forgiving Others Makes Life Better For You”. Trigger warning: contains references to child sexual abuse and rape.

“We focus on the abuser and victim, but it’s other adults around the situation who must step in.”

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This is a comment by on the post “But Why Didn’t You Say Something?”.

“As a victim of child sex abuse, I wish someone acted violently against my offender.”

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This is a comment by MsRN on the post “Talking Myself Out of Murdering Jerry Sandusky”.

On Men and Victimization

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Wherever there’s a victim, Frederick Marx writes, there’s also a perpetrator.