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How I Quit Writing

May 17, 2013 By Timothy Stobierski 2 Comments

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Fed up with rejection, Tim Stobierski quits writing, and discovers that there are some things you can’t stop doing without changing who you are.

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Angel

May 16, 2013 By Andy Bodle 10 Comments

Lowering his beauty standards proves too high a challenge for Andy Bodle.

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Her Feet of Clay

May 9, 2013 By Andy Bodle 15 Comments

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“We all judge people on their looks. Some of us are just more honest about it.” When Andy Bodle puts a woman on a pedestal for her beauty, the results are predictable.

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Good Grief

May 6, 2013 By Kile Ozier 8 Comments

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A generation later, Kile Ozier believes the gay community has still not healed from the ravaging shame and grief that accompanied the AIDS crisis.

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Keep That Wanker Away from Me

May 2, 2013 By Andy Bodle 13 Comments

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Do women prefer louts? Andy Bodle’s experiment in behaving poorly makes for bad science, but a good story.

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How Social Messages Can Make a Man a Bad Lover

April 6, 2013 By Brandy Engler 15 Comments

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What you believe may keep you from greater intimacy and satisfaction.

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Shame and Violence: The Connecticut School Shooting and Hate

December 16, 2012 By Vironika Tugaleva 11 Comments

Tragedy comes from repressed shame, not from being too permissive with people.

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Smashing Male Stereotypes

December 6, 2012 By Justin Cascio 15 Comments

We’re not all stereotypical, but even men who fit a mold are still real.

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I’d Court You If I Didn’t Have to Objectify You First

November 28, 2012 By Curt Moyer 64 Comments

A young man can’t take the first step toward long-term love, getting a date, because he can’t separate sexual attraction from objectification.

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How to Successfully Meet Women Online

November 14, 2012 By Joshua Pompey and Neely Steinberg 41 Comments

Let your online dating profile be a window into who you really are.

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“You’d be accused of misogyny for suggesting that men don’t need women.”

October 26, 2012 By the Editors 20 Comments

This is a comment by wellokaythen on the Comment of the Day: “I wondered why rejection never triggers the self doubt in my female friends as it does my male friends.”