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Guns and Fatalism

April 12, 2013 By Eric Sentell 24 Comments

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Eric Sentell shoots down the argument that “if guns are outlawed, only outlaws will have guns.”

Filed Under: Ethics & Values, Featured Content, Guns, The Good Life Tagged With: 9/11, armed citizens, arming teachers, assault weapons, assault weapons ban, Aurora Shooting, avoiding tragedy, Columbine shooting, defeatism, fatalism, Founding Fathers gun control, Freedom, Gabby Giffords shooting, gun control, gun control debate, gun lobby, guns in schools, mass shootings, military style guns, Newtown shooting, NRA, Patriot Act, sandy hook school shooting, school shootings, second amendment rights, security, security freedom, universal background checks, Virginia Tech shooting

Business Lessons From History’s 7 Greatest Heists

March 30, 2013 By Noah Brand 1 Comment

Brilliant, daring, large-scale thefts, and what they can teach us about mistakes and vulnerabilities.

Filed Under: Business Ethics, Featured Content Tagged With: Albert Spaggiari, Antwerp Diamond Heist, Brink's job, business, crime, heist, Iraqi Bank Job, Joseph Jagger, Leonardo Nartobotolo, Mona Lisa theft, Mr. Flomenbaum, Noah Brand, Saddam Hussein, security, theft

The Difference Between Want and Need

February 25, 2013 By Russell Perkins 3 Comments

Why should a man clean his toilet rather than play video games?

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, Ethics & Values, Featured Content, The Good Life Tagged With: acceptance, adulthood, advertising, charitable giving, codependence, Community, consumerism, contentment, cravings, debt, desires, drug use, duties, emotional intelligence, friendship, happiness, housework, impulse shopping, impulses, long term goals, maintenance, materialism, needs, patience, planning, Priorities, Psalms, Responsibility, retirement, sacrifice, security, Sex and Relationships, Suffering, survival, unhealthy relationships, Video Games, wants, weakness, wisdom

“How Can I Improve My Relationship With My Boyfriend’s Family?”

February 8, 2013 By POPSUGAR 1 Comment

My boyfriend’s family was so close to his former fiancée. Will they ever accept me?

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions Tagged With: advice, bullying, extended family, isolation, jealousy, loyalty, marriage, new boyfriend's family, new family members, rebound relationship, relationships, romance, security, sisters-in-law, trust, Weddings

Men May Be Disposable, But They Are Not Ending

January 29, 2013 By Pelle Billing 8 Comments

Pelle Billing calls for greater respect for the men who build everything from bridges to the internet.

Filed Under: Disposability of Men, Men and Feminism, The Good Life Tagged With: Are Men Necessary?, civilization, creative men, disposable men, disposable workers, engineering, feminism, hanna rosin, idealism, infrastructure, knowledge economy, male CEOs, male dominated professions, male inventors, maleness, manhood, masculinity, Maureen Dowd, mining, post-industrial society, privilege, security, social justice, Technology, The End of Men, War, who built the internet, women, workers, workers rights

When Did You Figure Out What Marriage Isn’t?

January 17, 2013 By Gint Aras 1 Comment

An informal survey among married (and divorced, and separated, and remarried) men.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Marriage Tagged With: a contest, anxiety, Ask Men, Courtship, death, Divorce, family, guys respond, happiness, heartbreak, intimacy, kids, marriage isn't a contest, maturity, safety, security, sensibility, separation, Sex and Relationships, what marriage isn't

The Tyranny of Rights

January 12, 2013 By Steve Jaeger 82 Comments

In an age of nuclear weapons and mass shootings, does it still make sense to uphold an American’s constitutional right to bear arms?

Filed Under: Ethics & Values, Featured Content, Guns, The Good Life Tagged With: 2nd amendment, armed citizenry, armed guards, assault weapons, conservative politics, fear, firearm homicide, Freedom, Gun Culture, gun rights debate, gun show loophole, Gun Violence, gun violence statistics, Hollywood violence, juvenile crime statistics, mass shootings, mental illness and guns, NRA, preventing gun violence, regulations, rights, security, soldiers, Video Games, violent crime statistics, Wayne LaPierre after Newtown

Very Superstitious

January 7, 2013 By Jeff Swain 4 Comments

Rituals we perform for good luck are known as sorcery, and actions we avoid out of superstition are taboos.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Man on the Run, The Good Life Tagged With: adventure, Agnosticism, authenticity, Barbara Walters, battles, Chicago Marathon, Christian rituals, Culture, danger, death, ego, Ernest Hemingway, flow, Helen Keller, how to be a writer, how to live, How to Write, Huckleberry Finn, identity, Judas, Leonardo da Vinci, literature, live in the moment, Logic, luck, Magic, Mark Twain, mental preparation, misfortune, origins of religion, prayer, preparation for battle, preventing accidents, preventing acts of god, preventing bad luck, reason, reminder, running, security, Sir James Frazer, sorcery, spilled salt, supernatural forces, superstition, sympathetic magic, taboo, The Golden Bough, The Last Supper, Twitter, War, why do we throw spilled salt over left shoulder

Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 By Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Men and Masculinity, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, aggression, anger, Anger Management, anxiety, authenticity, battering, biology, Brene Brown, communication, concern, conflict, cult of femininity, cult of masculinity, cycle of abuse, defensiveness, dignity, disposability of men, domestic abuse, domestic violence, domination, embarrassment, emotional intelligence, emotions, empathy, entitlement, evolutionary psychology, fear, female anxiety, Fighting, gender roles, hate crimes, heterosexual relationships, inadequacy, instinct, integrity, intimacy, isolation, judgment, judgmental, male ego, male entitlement, masculinity, mass shootings, misplaced blame, panic, prejudice, protectors, relationships, secrecy, secrets, security, sex, shame, shame research, silence, socialization, soothing, Steven Stosny, submission, support, suppressing anger, suppressing fear, triggers, validation, values, venting, vigilance, violence, vulnerability

You Can’t Be Too Supportive

December 23, 2012 By Vironika Tugaleva Leave a Comment

Advice for handling children’s fears can be applied to us all.

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, children's anxieties, children's fears, emotional intelligence, how to talk to children about school shootings, how to talk to kids about Sandy Hook shooting, mens news, Sandy Hook Elementary School Shooting, security, talking to children about fears, talking to children about violence, violence against children

Shame and Violence: The Connecticut School Shooting and Hate

December 16, 2012 By Vironika Tugaleva 11 Comments

Tragedy comes from repressed shame, not from being too permissive with people.

Filed Under: Conflict, Emotional Intelligence, Featured Content, The Good Life Tagged With: anger, awkwardness, Bowling for Columbine, causes of violence, Chris Poulson, Compassion, condemnation of violence, conflict, Connecticut school shooting, Connecticut shooting, cycle of shame and violence, dignity, emotional intelligence, empathy, eye for an eye, good and evil, Helen Lewis, history, hypermasculine violence, James Gilligan, Marilyn Manson, masculinity, Massachusetts, Michael Moore, monsters, Nazi Germany, Nietzsche, perpetrators of violence, preventing violence, psychology, rejection, repressed shame, safety, Sandy Hook Massacre, sandy hook school shooting, security, Sex and Relationships, shame, shootings, Suffering, Thomas Scheff, victims of violence, violence, violent criminals, War, Winston Churchill

Watching Him Go

December 13, 2012 By Edwin Lyngar Leave a Comment

Edwin Lyngar considers the “flaky” upbringing his oldest child had, with him for a single father.

Filed Under: Mixed and Step Families, The Good Life Tagged With: air force, basic training, blended families, california, dating with children, Families, fatherhood, military, Nevada, oldest son, remarriage, security, single fatherhood, son joining Air Force, son leaving home, stability

Men and Machines: 12/7

November 22, 2012 By The Good Life @ GMP Leave a Comment

How has technology shaped men’s lives?

Filed Under: Calls for Submissions, The Good Life, The Good Men Project Content Calendar Tagged With: assimilation, ATM's, blue-collar professions, careers, cell phones, civilization, communication, commuters, computers, cyborgs, expectations, future shock, gadgets, geocaching, Google, GPS, grid, lifestyle, Luddites, machines, men, privacy, programmers, secrets, security, society, suburbia, Technology, texting, tools, toys, Western Union, Work, work/life balance

David Petraeus and Public Morality

November 12, 2012 By Noah Brand 3 Comments

If secrets are a danger, isn’t openness the best defense? Or does the public lust for sex scandals trump everything?

Filed Under: Good Feed Blog Tagged With: Aimee Semple McPherson, blackmail, CIA, David Petraeus, extramarital affair, homosexuality, infidelity, Mary Astor, Noah Brand, secrets, security

When Trust Is Lost Can You Find It Again?

October 19, 2012 By Bill Cloke Leave a Comment

Some damage cannot be undone. Bill Cloke on what it takes to regain intimacy.

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions, Featured Content Tagged With: adultery, alcoholism, Anger Management, arrogance, cheating, commitment, confidence, Divorce, drug abuse, entitlement, full disclosure, honesty, intimacy, loneliness, marital problems, marriage, maturity, narcissism, regaining trust, relationships, respect, security, self-esteem, sex addiction, sexual infidelity, Suspicion, trust, values

Out of the Cradle

August 24, 2012 By Julia L. Bobkoff 2 Comments

The gifts from one’s parents include passions and observations that communicate—and finally become—character and identity.

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French President Signs Marriage Equality Legislation Into Law

Same-sex marriage and adoptions are now legal in France.

50 Years Ago Today: ‘Letter From Birmingham Jail’

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An AIDS activist, a Christian missionary, a wilderness first responder, and a revolutionary rock star… Premium Members talk to four men who’ve made it their lives’ work to help other people, and how any of us can be prepared to take action in a crisis.

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A Hug for a Haircut

Every Wednesday in Hartford’s Bushnell Park, a barber sets up shop to give free haircuts to anyone who wants one—the homeless to longtime clients all pay the same fee: one hug.