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My Husband Would Feel Fury and Frustration

May 2, 2013 By Lindile 15 Comments

A separated woman recalls teasing and insulting her husband in front of others

Filed Under: Marriage Tagged With: anonymous submissions, depression, depression in marriage, frustration, hurting your spouse, immature spouse, immaturity, loneliness, married for the wrong reasons, married too soon, separation, Southern Africa, tribal culture

Do Men Feel Ownership of Their Marriage?

April 5, 2013 By Paul Markevicius 7 Comments

Paul Markevicius connects the reasons men don’t write about marriage to the lack of agency they often feel once wed.

Filed Under: Marriage Tagged With: bliss, cultural mythology, Divorce, hell, institutional dysfunction, Lovesong, marriage, marriage myth, Paul Markevicius, separation, suicide rate, suicide rate among divorced men, Ted Hughes, Ted Hughes Lovesong, why men don't write

The Man’s Guide to Divorce

March 30, 2013 By Andrew Bruskin 1 Comment

Lawyer Andrew Bruskin explains three things to think about that could make a divorce easier for both side.

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions, Featured Content Tagged With: Andrew Bruskin, contested litigation, counseling, couple, custody, Divorce, expensive, issues, lawyer, legal fees, relationships, separation, uncontested divorce

When a Man’s Responsibility Has Gone, What Is There Left for Him?

March 28, 2013 By Graham Phoenix 13 Comments

widowers, divorce, men and marriage, men and responsibility, gender roles, traditional gender roles, traditional marriage, male disposability, male toughness, masculinity, manhood

Men keep going out of a sense of duty. What happens when that’s no longer enough?

Filed Under: Disposability of Men, Male Toughness Tagged With: addiction, alcoholism, anxiety, confidence, credit card debt, debt, Divorce, Entrepreneurship, family life, family men, feelings of inadequacy, gender roles, grief, independence, loss, machismo, male disposability, male toughness, manhood, masculinity, men and marriage, men and responsibility, pressure, rebuilding your life, remarriage, retirement, separation, success, traditional gender roles, traditional marriage, widowers

How to Love Fearlessly

March 27, 2013 By Rebecca Butler 12 Comments

marriage, love, fighting, divorce, separation, relationships, love, families, fear of abandonment, insecurity, commitment

Do you feel secure in your relationship?

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions, Mixed and Step Families, The Good Life Tagged With: appreciation, avoiding self-sabotage, Brene Brown, Cold War, commitment, daring greatly, defensiveness, Divorce, Families, fear, fear of abandonment, Fighting, foreboding, insecurity, joy, marriage, marriage counseling, relationship sabotage, relationships, self-esteem, separation, Sex and Relationships, stepfamilies, vulnerability

Young Beauty Seduces Until She Doesn’t

March 26, 2013 By Paul Markevicius 6 Comments

A London man is transfixed by a beautiful and young Ukrainian woman, marries her and is separated before he knows what happened.

Filed Under: Marriage Tagged With: age difference in marriage, dating a young woman, divorce vs separation, Elvis Costello, estranged husband, estranged spouse, estranged wife, foreign wife, heaven, Leonard Cohen, marrying a young woman, Nick Cave, Paul Markevicius, Rolling Stones, separation, separation from spouse, Talking Heads, tricked by a young woman, Ukrainian beauty, Ukrainian girl, Ukrainian spouse, young girl

You Don’t Have to Take Your Clothes Off to Be Naked: Love as Performance Art

March 10, 2013 By the Editors Leave a Comment

Performance artists Ulay and Marina Abromović meet at MOMA after having separated for decades.

Filed Under: Bits & Pieces Tagged With: Cry, Great Wall of China, hello and good-bye, Imponderabilia, MOMA, performance art, relationships, separation, together and apart, Ulay

I Had an Affair with a Married Man (and I Don’t Regret It)

January 25, 2013 By Anonymous 52 Comments

Sandra Cliff thought of their affair as “big love and big lies,” but her old lover seems to make his open marriage work—only with more orgasms.

Filed Under: Anonymous Stories, Featured Content, Infidelity, Polyamory, The Good Life Tagged With: Affairs, banging the boss, detachment, energy work, Entrepreneurs, Fidelity, mid-life crisis, Motley Crue cover band, office affairs, office romance, open marriage, polyamory, power, Qi Gong, rich men, romance, secret affairs, separation, sex with the nanny, sexuality, travel, vacations, yoga

When Did You Figure Out What Marriage Isn’t?

January 17, 2013 By Gint Aras 1 Comment

An informal survey among married (and divorced, and separated, and remarried) men.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Marriage Tagged With: a contest, anxiety, Ask Men, Courtship, death, Divorce, family, guys respond, happiness, heartbreak, intimacy, kids, marriage isn't a contest, maturity, safety, security, sensibility, separation, Sex and Relationships, what marriage isn't

Learning To Be Alone Again

January 12, 2013 By Nathan Graziano 4 Comments

After ten years of marriage, Nathan Graziano is finding being alone a different challenge from his old single days.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Solitude, The Good Life Tagged With: being alone, Bob Dylan, breakup poetry, cannoli, children, Divorce, divorced men, drinking, Ernest Hemingway, Freedom, intimacy, living on fast food, mental illness, relationships, routine, separation, sex, single men, singles scene, solitude, Tom Waits, writing

Kids School Adults on What Divorce is Really Like in Documentary Film

November 29, 2012 By Robert Duffer 2 Comments

Kids’ candid views on divorce make for a powerful documentary by filmmaker Ellen Bruno

Filed Under: Families Tagged With: children, Divorce, divorce rate, divorced kids, Ellen Bruno, helping kids understand divorce, marriage, separation, Split

“I don’t cheat because it would be there subtly in the field between me and my wife.”

November 19, 2012 By the Editors 1 Comment

This is a comment by jake wheeler on the post “31 Reasons Why Men Don’t Cheat”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: cheat, cheating, emotional, emotions, Fidelity, harm, Husband, infidelity, lie, marriage, men, omission, partner, separation, sex, significant other, temptation, wife, women

Last Place

November 18, 2012 By Sean Ferrell 2 Comments

How do you come to love the place you call home?

Filed Under: Featured Content, Quarter-Life Crisis, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: 1980s, 1990s, 9/11, adulthood, AOL, artists, blackout, Boston, Brooklyn, Brooklyn Bridge, Chuck Shumer, college life, Commodore 64, crisis, Divorce, fatherhood, fine arts, first love, George H.W. Bush, grad students, graduate school, gratitude, home, I love NY, Ikea, leaving home, lifestyle, lifestyle choice, living together, Manhattan, marriage, Marty Markowitz, MTA, New York, New Yorkers, NY, nyc, NYC real estate market, Parenthood, Paul Auster, President Bush, Prospect Park, psychology, public transit, quarter-life crisis, real estate, relationships, renting an apartment in NYC, Rochester, separation, Sex and Relationships, subways, teenagers, The Good Life, urban life

Long Distance Dad or Deadbeat?

August 29, 2012 By Rachel Goodchild 1 Comment

Who gets to label a father a “deadbeat dad”?

Filed Under: Families Tagged With: being a long-distance father, child support, children, custody, deadbeat dads, depression, Divorce, domestic violence, Families, fatherhood, holidays, long distance relationships, long-distance dads, mental illness, money, non-custodial fathers, parenting, parenting arrangements, separation, Skype dad

Suicide Shatters

August 15, 2012 By Barb Hildebrand 17 Comments

Suicide shatters the lives of everyone around its victim.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Suicide, The Good Life Tagged With: @unsuicide, Affairs, arrogance, bipolar disorder, business, children of suicide victims, downturn, emotion, fear, grief, gun suicide, Gun Violence, insecurity, job loss, marriage, men who commit suicide, mental health, mental illness, National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, pride, psychiatric diagnosis, recovering from loss, Self-Confidence, separation, suicide, suicide prevention, survivors of suicide, The Good Life, warning signs, wives of suicide victims, Work

“I identified with hip-hop artists because I felt similar pain, anger, and separation from the ‘mainstream’ culture.”

August 9, 2012 By the Editors Leave a Comment

This is a comment by Deborah on the post “Hip Hop Generation Masculinity: The Story of Tupac, Biggie and Me”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: anger, Biggie Smalls, bipolar, depression, depressive, DMX, emotions, entertainment, environment, Hip-Hop, Inspectah Deck, mainstream culture, man, men, music, Notorious B.I.G., Rap, separation, songs, suicidal, Tupac

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