The Gentleman’s Guide To Proactive Sexual Consent

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Jordan Gray says that there is an easy way to be respectful and sexy at the same time. —– Throughout the majority of my sex life, I have been utterly baffled. I’ve been baffled because I have consistently received the feedback from my lovers that I make them feel supremely comfortable very quickly. And after […]

Why She Loves Fifty Shades of Grey: Real-Life Lessons For The Bedroom

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Is Fifty Shades of Grey more about men than women? Charles J Orlando discusses.

There is No Gay or Straight


Dr. Stephen Petteruti’s take on “gay” or “straight”, and how those labels are putting people in boxes rather than setting them free.

Reclaiming Erotic Zeal in Your Marriage


Dr. Stephen Petteruti offers solutions to the decrease in sexual passion that happens in most longterm marriages.

Dear John: My Husband’s Knitting Is Out Of Control


An awkward gift-giver, a guy who accidentally killed his fiance’s pet, and waning attraction between a husband and wife.

An Open Letter to My Son About Sex

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“Your greatest challenge will be to honor the erotic feelings and desires that will come up inside you while also staying fully present and respectful.” Janis Whitlock, in a letter to her son.

Dear John: Daughter’s Nude Photos Not Welcome in Family Album


A daughter’s photography choices, a friend who wants credit for an idea, and a boyfriend who lied about a pot pipe.

Dear John: Do I Really Want An ‘Escort’ For My 26th Birthday?


A 26-year-old virgin hiring an escort for his birthday, a boss feeling undermined, and the myth of the perfect male body.

Dear John: Boyfriend’s Sexy Talk A Total Turnoff


A guy saying suggestive things in front of her son, a coworker who got mailed pot, and a couple on opposite ends of the political spectrum.

“It’s not just porn, kids also see adult material easily through movie trailers, video games, TV channels, etc.”


Do you think the accessibility of sexual images is causing damage to the sexual health of the upcoming generation? Or do you think that it’s just a natural effect of living in a more liberated society? How did sexual images affect YOUR childhood?

Do You Think Men Are Objectified in Movies?


Heather N argues that men are sexualized in movies based on what they do. Avern argues that even the perception of power and strength aren’t an indicator of character, and thus don’t make the images any less sexual. Do you agree?

“My girlfriend would grill me after going to the grocery story. How many affairs can I have in 10 minutes?”


Edgar Ramsey and Jimbo talk about past girlfriends, sexual compatibility and why jealousy is their top deal breaker in relationships. Have you experienced jealousy in your relationships? Is it at the top of your deal breaker list, or is something else?

“I have had several close non-sexual non-romantic relationships with women. How could you just rule out half the population?”


We all have different opinions on the “When Harry Met Sally” debate. Have you had platonic relationships with women throughout your life? Are we all destined to be attracted to each other? Or is there true friendship available that we’ve all ignored?

“Why should the guy put in more effort (romance) to get what BOTH people want (sex and intimacy)?”


This is a comment by Tim & Jules on the post “The Appeal of ‘Bad Boys’”.

Unveiling the Taboo: Days of Dialogue to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse


Removing the stigma around talking about sexual violence against men is key to the path to recovery and a healthier, safer world.

“While women don’t like being objectified, we do want to be attractive to our male partners.”


This is a comment by Erin on the post “I’d Court You if I Didn’t Have to Objectify You First”.