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Mental Toughness Has Nothing to Do with Being a Hardass

March 27, 2013 By Wendy Lynne 8 Comments

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Learn the difference between mastery and suppression of your feelings.

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, Health, Psych, & Addiction, Male Toughness, The Good Life Tagged With: anger, Anger Management, anxiety, body mind connection, denial, difficult emotions, doubts, emotional resilience, grief, male toughness, man code, Man up, manhood, masculinity, men's emotions, men's feelings, mental toughness, negative emotions, problem solving emotions, psychology, repressed, self-knowledge, shame, stoicism, The Good Life

How to Become a Warrior

March 25, 2013 By Russell Perkins Leave a Comment

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The warrior is sensitive enough to discern truth, and has the courage to stand up for it.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Historical Perspectives on Goodness, Male Toughness, The Good Life Tagged With: aggression, battlefields, Boys, Carl von Clausewitz, charm, competition, courage, defining masculinity, experts on warfare, Fighting, General George S. Patton, General Patton, grace, guys who wrote the book on war, heroes, highly sensitive men, intelligence, leadership, macho men, male disposability, male rites of passage, male role models, male sensitivity, male success, male toughness, male warriors, manhood, masculinity, military genius, nobility, objectification of men, physical culture, samurai, self-control, sensitivity, soldiers, stoicism, strength, Sun Tzu, superheroes, tough guys, traditional gender roles, war philosophy, warfare literature, warriors, young men

Male Toughness: 3/9

February 21, 2013 By The Good Life @ GMP 3 Comments

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Do men need toughening up, or are we tough enough already?

Filed Under: Calls for Submissions, The Good Life, The Good Men Project Content Calendar Tagged With: agency, calls for submissions, endurance, Iron Man, male stereotypes, manhood, masculinity, muscle, power, stoicism, strength, tough guy, virility

Navigating Male Midlife

December 12, 2012 By Lisa Friedman Bloch and Kathy Kirtland Silverman 5 Comments

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Recognize the signs of male menopause and understand the reasons behind the changes.

Filed Under: Health, Psych, & Addiction, Men Over 50, The Good Life Tagged With: change of life, competition, control, empty nest syndrome, fear of aging, fear of death, generation gap, male menopause, manhood, manopause, masculinity, men at midlife, Men over 50, Men's Health, mental health, midlife, midlife crisis, milestones, relationships, Senior Men, stoicism, strength, testosterone, traditional male, vulnerability, work/life balance

Is Football Heroic? Jovan Belcher, Violence, and Masculinity

December 9, 2012 By Kim Hudson 14 Comments

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Is the masculine power the makes football exhilarating, the same destructive force that killed Jovan Belcher and Kasandra Perkins?

Filed Under: Good Feed Blog, Sports Tagged With: American culture, courage, discipline, domestic violence, football, heroes, hypermasculinity, insecurity, integrity, Jovan Belcher, Kansas City Chiefs, Kasandra Perkins, man code, masculine archetypes, masculinity, mental illness, murder-suicide, nfl, protecting, self-control, sports, sports culture, sports heroes, sportsmanship, stoicism, suicide, violence, warrior king

The Hazards of Manhood

November 4, 2012 By Michael Schwalbe 16 Comments

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Am I man enough? Am I powerful enough? Men put their bodies at risk to cover up pain, fear, and vulnerability.

Filed Under: Conflict, Featured Content Tagged With: competition, conformism, exploitation, gender performativity, John Henry, machismo, masculinity, Michael Schwalbe, performative masculinity, sports, stoicism, toughness, working class, workplace deaths

Genetic Despair: Depression and Me

October 22, 2012 By Noah Brand 8 Comments

Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions, Featured Content, On Depression Tagged With: clinical depression, communication, depression, Despair, emotion, emotions, failure, family, gender performativity, Noah Brand, self-care, stoicism

Men, Strength, and Death

August 23, 2012 By Steve Milan 3 Comments

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True strength does not require denial of reality, but suppleness in meeting it.

Filed Under: Cancer, Featured Content, The Good Life Tagged With: acknowledging pain, adaptability, authenticity, body image, cancer, Care, coherence, crying, Dan Siegel, denial, Divorce, Doctors, emotions, energy, esophageal cancer, Faith, fear, flexibility, friends, grief, health, Hospice, illness, integration, isolation, John Wayne, joy, loss, masculine strength, medicine, men, men's emotions, Men's Health, pain, Palliative Care, Pancreatic Cancer, psychology, relationships, relief, religion, research, respect, rigidity, self image, self-sufficiency, solidity, stoicism, stomach cancer, strength, suppleness, surgery, terminal illness, terminally ill, vulnerability, withdrawal

The Masks We Wear

August 8, 2012 By Jacob Taylor 6 Comments

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Sometimes we need a second face in order to deal with the world.

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“I always knew he would be a manly man type and never desired to take this away.”

May 22, 2012 By the Editors 1 Comment

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These are two comments by M and AM on the post “The New Macho”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: being a man, emotions, gender, gender wars, history, macho, manhood, manliness, marriage, men, relationships, risk-taking, sex, stoicism, strength, the male myth, the sexes, Time, women

Men and Their Inner Goat

April 12, 2012 By Bettina Arndt 95 Comments

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Bettina Arndt discusses “the vexed business of accommodating male and female sexual needs.”

Filed Under: Men and Dating Tagged With: Coolidge Effect, dan savage, David Steinberg, Do I stay or do I go?, Fidelity, G.G.G., Lust in Translation, Male Sexual Desire, male sexuality, Mark Oppenheimer, marriage, Max Wolf Valerio, men, Pamela Druckerman, Sex Advice, Sex and Relationships, sexual experimentation, stoicism, The Porn Report, the telegraph, The Testosterone Files

Which Virtues Are the Most Underrated?

February 22, 2012 By John Walters 2 Comments

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“Acts of heroism and accomplishment are always prepared for with millions of small actions that make up a person’s moral fiber.”

Filed Under: Men and Heroism, The Good Life Tagged With: Consistency, curiosity, Decency, flaws, heroes, men, Moral Fiber, stoicism, The Good Life, virtues

Bloody but Unbowed: Stoicism for the 21st Century

October 25, 2011 By Rick Morris 3 Comments

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How an English poet, a Roman emperor, and an American admiral can teach the modern man about courageous suffering.

Filed Under: Ethics & Values Tagged With: independence, inspiration, James Stockdale, Marcus Aurelius, perseverance, Rick Morris, stoicism, William Ernest Henley

Lost: One Testicle

September 5, 2011 By Joe Weinberg 8 Comments

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Instead of looking for sympathy, Joe Weinberg had an unlikely reaction: He wished the cancer had been worse.

Filed Under: Best of Health, Editors' Picks, Featured Content, Health, Psych, & Addiction Tagged With: cancer, manliness, stoicism, Survivor, testicle, testicular cancer

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Death Toll in Oklahoma Tornado Reaches 51, Expected to Rise

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