How Stoicism Let Me Be Vulnerable

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Despite what you may think, Stoicism depends upon profound emotional intelligence, an is a great way for men to learn and grow. Jules Evans tells his story.

How to Live Like An Emperor (or a Marketer) For A Day

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What do Tim Ferriss and Emperor Marcus Aurelius have in common? Graham Scott has the answer: Stoicism.

“When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the floodgates open.”

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Great article, Aaron. I LOVE the last two sentences. As we’ve talked about, with many men it takes a gut wrenching, 2×4 club to the stomach sort of epiphany to want to talk. When my clients reach this point of pain, hunger, or fear…they finally call. When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the flood gates open. Sometimes it’s way too late. Even then it doesn’t matter. He needs to work on being better at his NEXT relationship.
Then he has to decide if he actually going to DO anything different. If nothing changes – nothing changes.
Title: When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the floodgates open.

We’re Men. We Don’t Talk About Our Feelings.

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Aaron Anderson describes how overcoming the stereotype of the silent stoic could help men take responsibility for their relationships.

Sometimes, Not Crying Is A Strength All Its Own

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John Hearn has noticed men weeping openly. He advises us not to dismiss the stoic men of the past.

Call for Submissions: Male Toughness

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Do men need toughening up, or are we tough enough already?

Mental Toughness Has Nothing to Do with Being a Hardass

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Learn the difference between mastery and suppression of your feelings.

How to Become a Warrior

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The warrior is sensitive enough to discern truth, and has the courage to stand up for it.

Navigating Male Midlife

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Recognize the signs of male menopause and understand the reasons behind the changes.

Is Football Heroic? Jovan Belcher, Violence, and Masculinity

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Is the masculine power the makes football exhilarating, the same destructive force that killed Jovan Belcher and Kasandra Perkins?

The Hazards of Manhood

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Am I man enough? Am I powerful enough? Men put their bodies at risk to cover up pain, fear, and vulnerability.

Genetic Despair: Depression and Me

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Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.

Men, Strength, and Death

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True strength does not require denial of reality, but suppleness in meeting it.

The Masks We Wear

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“I always knew he would be a manly man type and never desired to take this away.”

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These are two comments by M and AM on the post “The New Macho”.

Men and Their Inner Goat

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Bettina Arndt discusses “the vexed business of accommodating male and female sexual needs.”