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Hyperarousal: Beyond Fight or Flight

February 20, 2013 by Justin Cascio 2 Comments

In a crisis, your choices are limited, but it’s not as bad as you think.

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21 Step Guide to the Art of Masculine Domination

January 29, 2013 by Candice Holdorf 14 Comments

Skillful dominance requires confidence and sensitivity. Are you bringing it, every step of the way?

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Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 by Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Men and Masculinity, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, aggression, anger, Anger Management, anxiety, authenticity, battering, biology, Brene Brown, communication, concern, conflict, cult of femininity, cult of masculinity, cycle of abuse, defensiveness, dignity, disposability of men, domestic abuse, domestic violence, domination, embarrassment, emotional intelligence, emotions, empathy, entitlement, evolutionary psychology, fear, female anxiety, Fighting, gender roles, hate crimes, heterosexual relationships, inadequacy, instinct, integrity, intimacy, isolation, judgment, judgmental, male ego, male entitlement, masculinity, mass shootings, misplaced blame, panic, prejudice, protectors, relationships, secrecy, secrets, security, sex, shame, shame research, silence, socialization, soothing, Steven Stosny, submission, support, suppressing anger, suppressing fear, triggers, validation, values, venting, vigilance, violence, vulnerability

Is BDSM Just a Phase?

November 23, 2012 by Jay Shaw 32 Comments

A dominant man’s sexuality matures and evolves with experience.

Filed Under: BDSM, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: BDSM, confidence, consent, dominant men, domination, Fetish, lust, masochism, relationships, sex, sexual dynamics, sexual identity, sexual submission, sexuality, submission, submissive women

Diary of a Submissive Man at NY Magazine

June 10, 2012 by Noah Brand 4 Comments

What does a magazine article about a sexually submissive man tell us about gender roles?

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“50 Shades of Grey,” “Fight Club,” and the Complications of Male Dominance

April 24, 2012 by Clarisse Thorn 28 Comments

Clarisse Thorn sees nothing new in eroticized images of male dominance and violence, but she sees plenty that’s thought-provoking.

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Facing the Reality of Men Who’ve Been Raped By Women

An article in The Atlantic exposes the reality of male survivors who’ve been assaulted by females, including Don Draper, the main character in the show Mad Men.

Courtnay Midkiff is Walking Cross Country to Raise Awarness of a Rare and Deadly Disease

For the past three months, 23-year-old Courtnay Midkiff has been on a journey, walking across the country for a cause that is special to his heart.

Pregnant Boys: Chicago’s Teen Pregnancy Campaign Sparks Conversation

Chicago is shocking the world with its 2013 teen pregnancy prevention campaign, which features pregnant teenage boys.

Supreme Court Rules Proof of Citizenship Not Required for Voter Registration

The Supreme Court has ruled against an Arizona law that requires voters to provide proof of citizenship in addition to a driver’s license before they can register to vote.