Suffering — The Good Men Project

Secondary Survivors

April 20, 2013 By 1in6 2 Comments

For those that love us and are aware of our past: the other survivors of abuse.

Filed Under: On Rape and Sexual Violence Tagged With: behavior, emotional, family, men, pain, past, secondary, self, Sex and Relationships, sexual abuse, Suffering, Survivors, wife

Why Pain Is a Wonderful Thing

April 1, 2013 By Wendy Lynne 5 Comments

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Don’t kill the messenger: pain is also the source of compassion.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Health, Psych, & Addiction, Male Toughness, Pain, The Good Life Tagged With: bodies, body, change, communication, Compassion, crisis, emergency, emotional pain, empathy, exercise, gratitude, health, human body owner's manual, injury, pain, pain signals, scars, Suffering, survival, Training, trauma, wellness

Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living

March 12, 2013 By Jesse Kornbluth 1 Comment

How can practicing Buddhism save you from a burning wreck?

Filed Under: Lifestyle, Male Toughness, The Good Life Tagged With: acceptance, Allan Lokos, book review, Buddhism, Burma, Burmese, Community Meditation Center, crisis, danger, emergency, famous Buddhists, Helplessness, Manhattan, meditation, new york city, pain, patience, peaceful living, plane crash, Suffering, survival, surviving plane crash, Susanna Weiss, US embassy

The Difference Between Want and Need

February 25, 2013 By Russell Perkins 3 Comments

Why should a man clean his toilet rather than play video games?

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, Ethics & Values, Featured Content, The Good Life Tagged With: acceptance, adulthood, advertising, charitable giving, codependence, Community, consumerism, contentment, cravings, debt, desires, drug use, duties, emotional intelligence, friendship, happiness, housework, impulse shopping, impulses, long term goals, maintenance, materialism, needs, patience, planning, Priorities, Psalms, Responsibility, retirement, sacrifice, security, Sex and Relationships, Suffering, survival, unhealthy relationships, Video Games, wants, weakness, wisdom

The Next Life [Book Excerpt: 100 Tricks Every Boy Can Do: How My Brother Disappeared]

February 4, 2013 By Kim Stafford 2 Comments

My brother Bret started the next life at forty, when he departed from this world by suicide.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Solitude, Suicide, The Good Life Tagged With: adventure, anthropology, brotherhood, brothers, california, camping, Candle Creek, Cascade Mountains, children, depression, dreams, fatherhood, finding yourself, First Nations people, friendship, grief, hiking, Iowa, Ishi in Two Worlds, loneliness, Meaning of Life, Mount Jefferson, Native Americans, Oregon, Poet Laureate, poets, Presbyterian, purpose, single fatherhood, solitude, Suffering, suicide, teaching writing, Texas, Wilderness, William Stafford, writers

Unconquered

January 28, 2013 By Jeff Swain 1 Comment

Jeff Swain defines ‘unconquered,’ with some help from his friends: William Ernest ‘Captain of My Soul’ Henley and Tom Petty.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Man on the Run, The Good Life Tagged With: amputee, death, endurance, fate, Fighting, Free Falling, gallows humor, hitting bottom, I am the captain of my soul, I am the master of my fate, indifference, injustice, losing, Meaning of Life, mental health, mortality, my head is bloody but unbowed, mythology, myths, overcoming adversity, rites of passage, running, success, Suffering, suicidal thoughts, suicide, tests, Tom Petty, tubercular poets, William Ernest Henley, winning at life

“If we used our ‘defense’ budget to help people, the next generation would know how to care for one another.”

January 8, 2013 By the Editors 9 Comments

This is a comment by Justin Cascio on the post “Male Disposability: 1/19″.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: Care, caring, cost, defense, example, help, human, human beings, improvement, money, people, Sex and Relationships, society, Suffering, teaching

Shame and Violence: The Connecticut School Shooting and Hate

December 16, 2012 By Vironika Tugaleva 11 Comments

Tragedy comes from repressed shame, not from being too permissive with people.

Filed Under: Conflict, Emotional Intelligence, Featured Content, The Good Life Tagged With: anger, awkwardness, Bowling for Columbine, causes of violence, Chris Poulson, Compassion, condemnation of violence, conflict, Connecticut school shooting, Connecticut shooting, cycle of shame and violence, dignity, emotional intelligence, empathy, eye for an eye, good and evil, Helen Lewis, history, hypermasculine violence, James Gilligan, Marilyn Manson, masculinity, Massachusetts, Michael Moore, monsters, Nazi Germany, Nietzsche, perpetrators of violence, preventing violence, psychology, rejection, repressed shame, safety, Sandy Hook Massacre, sandy hook school shooting, security, Sex and Relationships, shame, shootings, Suffering, Thomas Scheff, victims of violence, violence, violent criminals, War, Winston Churchill

“When we refuse to see the human in the monster, we all suffer.”

December 14, 2012 By the Editors 5 Comments

This is a comment by KKZ on the post “Men and Goodness”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: Compassion, crime, guys, human, humanity, hurt, man, men, monster, pain, people, sadness, Suffering, terrible acts

The Utility of Rape Porn

November 7, 2012 By Justin Cascio 73 Comments

Under what circumstances is it acceptable to simulate non-consensual or violent sex?

Filed Under: Men and Pornography, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, adolescent boys, adult film stars, Andrea Dworkin, anti-pornography, babysitter porn, BDSM, Ben Keeler, Boys, bullying, clarisse thorn, consent, defining porn, emotional intelligence, entertainment, fair trade pornography, feminism, Fetish, Gail Dines, gang bang porn, GLBT, Grand Theft Auto, horror movies, Hugo Schwyzer, IMPACT training, Internet porn, Margaret Atwood, Men and Pornography, mentoring, misogyny, Model Mugging, Noah Brand, Pat Califia, Playboy, porn addiction, prostitution, rape, rape culture, rape fantasies, rape porn, respect, Robert Jensen, role playing games, romance novels, second wave feminism, self defense, sex education, sex work, sex workers, sex-positivity, sexting, sexual assault, slash fiction, smut, Suffering, survivors of sexual assault, table of contents, taboo, third wave feminism, Video Games, violence, women's sexuality

A Man Ought to Know How to Handle Something Like This

November 7, 2012 By Rick Belden 11 Comments

Bullying doesn’t always stop when childhood ends.

Filed Under: Power and Powerlessness, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, adult survivors of child abuse, being bullied, bullies, child abuse survivors, conflict, conflict resolution, control, emotional intelligence, Families, fear, Fighting, interpersonal conflict, intimidation, male survivors, manipulation, Not Trauma Alone, powerlessness, rage, sabotage, shame, Steven N. Gold, Suffering, survivors of abuse, Torture, trauma

Would the Buddha Look at Porn?

November 6, 2012 By Keith Andresen 33 Comments

On the question of porn, Buddhist American Keith Andresen is torn between culture and faith.

Filed Under: Men and Pornography, The Good Life Tagged With: American culture, BDSM, buddha, Buddhism, civil rights, Compassion, consent, degradation, fantasy, humiliation, Internet porn, Men and Pornography, mindfulness, porn addiction, pornography, prostitution, relationships, sex, sex workers, Suffering, The Good Life

How Much Truth, How Soon?

November 6, 2012 By JD Roberto 3 Comments

What knowledge do you shield your kids from, and why?

Filed Under: Ethics & Values, Featured Content, Gratitude, The Good Life Tagged With: afterlife, children, death, domestic violence, drug abuse, evil, fatherhood, feed the hungry, gratitude, homelessness, kidnapping, mission, murder, poverty, radical honesty, serving the poor, social justice, stranger danger, Suffering, suicide, teaching children, telling kids the truth, violence, volunteering, women's shelters

When Your Parent Dies

August 27, 2012 By Joe Cardillo 2 Comments

What gifts of care or truth are worthwhile to the dying, and to those left behind?

Filed Under: Cancer, Families, The Good Life Tagged With: addiction, bitterness, cancer, caring for parents, caring for the terminally ill, chemotherapy, communication, death, dementia, Divorce, dying, emotions, father, genetics, grief, honesty, life, male caretakers, men caring for the terminally ill, men caring for their parents, mother, orphan, pain, parents, Parkinson's, passion, peace, relationships, reproductive organs, Responsibility, self-harm, side effects, Suffering, terminal illness, truth, urgency

The Masks We Wear

August 8, 2012 By Jacob Taylor 6 Comments

Sometimes we need a second face in order to deal with the world.

Filed Under: A&E, Health, Psych, & Addiction Tagged With: abuse, abuse survivors, Alfred, anger, batman, Bruce Wayne, Christopher Nolan, coping, Dark Knight, family, film, godsons, gotham, guilt, John Blake, masculinity, Mask, mentors, movies, nephews, nightmares, pain, relationships, review, social, sons, spoiler, sranger, stoicism, Suffering, the Dark Knight Rises, toughness, younger brothers

“I am tired of hearing that the pain of my friends and brothers’ is their own fault.”

July 11, 2012 By the Editors 12 Comments

This is a comment by Mike L on the post “Dear Men and Women, I Won’t Apologize to You”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: academics, brothers, circumstances, educators, friendship, gender, gender expressions, gender studies, gender war, lie, male success, Media, men, pain, society, success, Suffering

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