Stay With the Pain, Don’t Shut It Out

Pain, Fight Club, Brad Pitt, Edward Norton

Not all of Tyler Durden’s advice in Fight Club was sound, but this piece has merit.

From Bouncer to Buddhist—a Journey Towards Peace

From Bouncer to Buddhist by US Geological Survey

Ty Phillips didn’t think twice about violence, until he started thinking seriously about it. Then everything changed.

The One Secret to Feeling Totally Alive

Feeling Alive

The way to feel totally alive is actually quite simple (but not necessarily easy) and it boils down to making just one choice…

Is Compassion Really the New Cool?

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The drive to show “masculine compassion” misses the point about human struggle.

A History of Violence


Alex Gallo-Brown reflects on one man’s acts of violence, and the impact they have had on his life.

Suffering, Sorrow, and Being Nine Years-Old

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Derek Penwell was nine years old when friend of his was badly burned. And it caused him to think about how we witness one another’s pain.

The Greatest Lie Ever Told: Pain, Masculinity & the Spiritual Path

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Ryan Kuja makes an inquiry into the connections between spiritual and emotional suffering and our path to transformation.

Psychology and the Chance of Bringing Peace to Syria


With 100,000 people killed and 10 million displaced, is there hope for peace in Syria? Yes. But only if we can overcome the self-defeating psychology of revenge.

Everybody Hurts after a Breakup, Especially Men

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While men are still portrayed as stoic in our culture, they experience heartbreak just as deeply as women do. Sometimes even more

The Suffering of Our Privilege


Cameron Conaway suffered from a few days of culture shock when he arrived in Thailand, and a few months of it when he arrived back home to Pennsylvania.

30 Ways to Make Yourself Miserable (Along with Everyone Around You)


Lion Goodman shares the secret techniques to suffering.

On Suffering (and How to Fit the Entire Human Race into a Single Sugar Cube)


I thought I deserved to suffer, but when I discovered the true purpose of suffering, it was transformational.

What Was the Most Important Thing People Learned in the 20th Century?


Robert Fuller believes the most important learning of the century was disabusing ourselves of the notion that some people are inferior.

Get Over It. Men and the Cost of Emotional Repression

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Why men are taught to never, ever, ever, show emotions. An excerpt from Chapter Two in Noah Brand’s and Ozy Franz’s book about masculinity.

Secondary Survivors


For those that love us and are aware of our past: the other survivors of abuse.

Why Pain Is a Wonderful Thing

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Don’t kill the messenger: pain is also the source of compassion.