Why I Needed To Become A Big Brother


LeRon Barton thought that boys needed to be toughened up, until he started mentoring one. My mother had always told me when I was younger, “If you’re not helping out, then you are not doing anything,” and that had stuck with me for a long time. From volunteering in soup kitchens, tutoring people in computer […]

Soccer Is Not Manly. What!?


“Listen folks, if you want your son to grow up to be a man, don’t have him run around on a field kicking a ball, get him wrestling.” –Ben Askren

Boys Don’t Cry

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Reid Wilson believes we must redefine toughness in the 21st century, especially when it comes to our boys. Here’s why and how.

What They Don’t Tell You About Your First Time Under Fire


Former Marine and present UN Field Security Officer, Dewaine Farria, shares his gripping insight into courage—told through the experience of his first time under fire.

Are Youth Offenders Victims As Well?


We must move beyond seeing youth offenders as merely criminals. They are victims in need of love as well.

How a Tiny Boy Taught Me To Be a Man

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Tough? At 2 pounds, 14 ounces, how could Henry be considered tough?

Embracing Toughness


You can be an enlightened man and still a tough guy. George Clarke explains how.

The Cold, Wet Nose of Acceptance

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Arthur MacMaster struggles to accept himself as a man with a disability, but his dog doesn’t.

“There are intangibles to playing sports: self-discipline, overcoming hardship, facing fear, camaraderie.”


This is a comment by Rick on the post “Real Men Don’t Watch Sports”. While sports sometimes have a tendency to seem violent and bring out hostile “manly” attitudes, someone who has lived through them has a different perspective.

The Hazards of Manhood


Am I man enough? Am I powerful enough? Men put their bodies at risk to cover up pain, fear, and vulnerability.

“Boys are taught that toughness, violence, winning and being at the top is the most important aspect of proving their masculinity.”


This is a comment byJames on the post “Do Guys Fight For Their Friendships? (Hint: NYT says “No”; I say “Hell, Yes”!)”.

7 Things I Find Attractive in a Woman Now That I Am 50


James Elliot’s tastes have matured along with him. Here, he talks about what’s so sexy about women his own age.

Sometimes I Want To Give Up


Jeffrey Hartinger tells the truth about dealing with bigotry and its endless microaggressions: no matter how tough you are, it doesn’t get any easier.

The Masks We Wear


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Don’t Be a ‘Guy’


Michael Doran is happy he took such a tough and winding path toward realizing that he didn’t need to prove his manliness.

Becoming an Asshole…For Good?


Ron Mattocks finds inspiration and wisdom in some unlikely characters: Don Draper, for instance.