Comment of the Day: ‘Toughness is an illusion, a mask we hide behind’

Real men show their emotions.

Why I Admire Hillary Clinton’s Toughness

Matthew Rozsa explains a quality he admires about Hillary Clinton.

Why a Life With Pain Means a Life With Greatness

Lancelot Kirby believes pain is a gift and leads to greater joy, deeper thought, and a more fulfilling life.

How I Learned the 4 Keys of Friendship

Patrick Sallee learned how to be a great friend from a friend he’s sadly about to lose.

Why I Needed To Become A Big Brother

LeRon Barton thought that boys needed to be toughened up, until he started mentoring one. My mother had always told me when I was younger, “If you’re not helping out, then you are not doing anything,” and that had stuck with me for a long time. From volunteering in soup kitchens, tutoring people in computer […]

Soccer Is Not Manly. What!?

“Listen folks, if you want your son to grow up to be a man, don’t have him run around on a field kicking a ball, get him wrestling.” –Ben Askren

Boys Don’t Cry

Reid Wilson believes we must redefine toughness in the 21st century, especially when it comes to our boys. Here’s why and how.

What They Don’t Tell You About Your First Time Under Fire

Former Marine and present UN Field Security Officer, Dewaine Farria, shares his gripping insight into courage—told through the experience of his first time under fire.

Are Youth Offenders Victims As Well?

We must move beyond seeing youth offenders as merely criminals. They are victims in need of love as well.

How a Tiny Boy Taught Me To Be a Man

Tough? At 2 pounds, 14 ounces, how could Henry be considered tough?

Embracing Toughness

You can be an enlightened man and still a tough guy. George Clarke explains how.

The Cold, Wet Nose of Acceptance

Arthur MacMaster struggles to accept himself as a man with a disability, but his dog doesn’t.

“There are intangibles to playing sports: self-discipline, overcoming hardship, facing fear, camaraderie.”

This is a comment by Rick on the post “Real Men Don’t Watch Sports”. While sports sometimes have a tendency to seem violent and bring out hostile “manly” attitudes, someone who has lived through them has a different perspective.

The Hazards of Manhood

Am I man enough? Am I powerful enough? Men put their bodies at risk to cover up pain, fear, and vulnerability.

“Boys are taught that toughness, violence, winning and being at the top is the most important aspect of proving their masculinity.”

This is a comment byJames on the post “Do Guys Fight For Their Friendships? (Hint: NYT says “No”; I say “Hell, Yes”!)”.

7 Things I Find Attractive in a Woman Now That I Am 50

James Elliot’s tastes have matured along with him. Here, he talks about what’s so sexy about women his own age.