Accident

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In the latest installment of “Love, Recorded,” a car named Kiki gets in an accident. But what really hurts is the crash between the present and the past.

No More: Your Voice Can End the Silence

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1 in 6 men in the United States has had an unwanted or abusive sexual experience in childhood.

You Probably Don’t Practice the Most Important Skill in Life

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You are a SOCIAL animal. So why accept social mediocrity?

When Getting “Lucky” Really Isn’t a Good Thing At All

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Boys are often told that having a sexual experience with an older woman is a “badge of honor.” But many times such experiences can more accurately be described as a “traumatic experience” and even as a case of sexual abuse.

Sometimes Trauma Resurfaces When We’re Best Ready to Cope With It

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“But why did it surface now?” I asked myself that question many times during the first year of my struggle with the molestation.

“Sometimes we are our own worst enemies with an internal critic…determined to make ourselves feel bad.”

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How an Obsessive Drive for Perfection Led One Man to Inner Peace

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Daniel Parmeggiani shares how his neurosis for perfection led him to discover his true innocent nature.

How Men Can Support Women Post Sexual Abuse

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Two years ago his wife was kidnapped, stabbed, shot and sexually assaulted by nine men. Here’s the story, the mistakes he made in trying to help and the lessons he wants to put into the world for other men who may find themselves in a similar situation.

Resilience is About Survival, in Whatever Form it Takes

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Peter Pollard on how he sees resilience as the beautiful light that overcomes the darkness of trauma.

On the “Get Over It” Myth of Healing from Trauma

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Patti Giggans, Executive Director of Peace Over Violence, believes the “Get over it” approach is myth, not methodology. And she wants us to put it to rest once and for all.

Sexual Violence: It Really is a Men’s Issue

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Conversations about sexual violence relegate men to two roles: Bystander or Perpetrator. It’s time to add the third role: Survivor.

Longing for the Longhairs, or a World Where Men Are Different

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Melissa Potter almost always fell for the guys with long hair. And she finally figured out why.

But I Don’t Always Have Enough Light For My Own Path

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Cecil Murphey, a sex abuse survivor, offers a moving meditation about what he’s learned on the path to healing.

Fellow Male Survivors, Please Remember We Are One

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One of the significant issues with male survivors is that we generally believe we are alone, the only one. In fact, most of us are alone because of the walls of protection we build around ourselves.

Change is Coming for Survivors of Sexual Assault

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Randy Ellis, an advocate for child sexual abuse victims, sees the light of positive changes.

“I do not, and cannot, trust other men. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of male friends I have, and none of them I let get close to me.”

Leap of Faith

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