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The Boston Bombings, Triggers, and Self-Care

April 19, 2013 By Christopher M. Anderson 1 Comment

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Some things you can do if news coverage of stories about abuse, violence, and/or trauma are triggering you.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Good Feed Blog, On Rape and Sexual Violence Tagged With: Boston bombing, Boston Marathon Bombing, christopher m. anderson, dr. howard fradkin, MaleSurvivor.org, manhunt, national disaster distress hotline, samaratans, self-care, suicide prevention lifeline, triggers

When “Forgive” Is An Abuse Trigger

January 20, 2013 By W.R.R. 17 Comments

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For some child abuse survivors, forgiveness is a path to healing. For others, being pressured to forgive only makes things worse. Don’t assume that you know which is which.

Filed Under: Ethics & Values, Featured Content Tagged With: child abuse, Dianne E. Anderson, evil, Forgiveness, healing, rape culture, rationalization, religion, Rick Belden, sexual abuse, Therapy, trauma, triggers, WRR

5 Techniques to Avoid Cravings after Drug Rehab

January 20, 2013 By Hayley Granton Leave a Comment

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After recognizing cravings and their triggers, learn to alleviate the discomfort.

Filed Under: Addiction, Health, Psych, & Addiction, The Good Life Tagged With: addiction, alcohol abuse, alcoholism, cravings, drug addiction, drug rehab, drug use, emotional intelligence, friends, healthy behaviors, healthy habits, mental health, recovery, sobriety, substance abuse, substance abuse centers, support, Therapy, triggers

Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 By Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

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When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Men and Masculinity, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, aggression, anger, Anger Management, anxiety, authenticity, battering, biology, Brene Brown, communication, concern, conflict, cult of femininity, cult of masculinity, cycle of abuse, defensiveness, dignity, disposability of men, domestic abuse, domestic violence, domination, embarrassment, emotional intelligence, emotions, empathy, entitlement, evolutionary psychology, fear, female anxiety, Fighting, gender roles, hate crimes, heterosexual relationships, inadequacy, instinct, integrity, intimacy, isolation, judgment, judgmental, male ego, male entitlement, masculinity, mass shootings, misplaced blame, panic, prejudice, protectors, relationships, secrecy, secrets, security, sex, shame, shame research, silence, socialization, soothing, Steven Stosny, submission, support, suppressing anger, suppressing fear, triggers, validation, values, venting, vigilance, violence, vulnerability

7 Ways to Work Out Negative Emotions with Your Mate

June 26, 2012 By Bill Cloke 8 Comments

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How to transform conflict with your mate into compassion.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Sex & Relationships Tagged With: acceptance, anger, arguments, chores, commitment, communication, Compassion, complaining, conflict resolution, contempt, counseling, couples therapy, criticism, defense mechanisms, defenses, defensive, Divorce, domestic, emotions, fear, Fighting, Healing Relationships, household, Husband, intimacy, John Gottman, marriage, nagging, negative, negative emotions, partner, problem-solving, rage, relationships, requests, Sex and Relationships, spouse, triggers, wife

The Sandusky Trial: Reflections From Penn State

June 18, 2012 By Christopher M. Anderson 1 Comment

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An adult survivor of abuse reports from the Sandusky trial.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Health, Psych, & Addiction, Lifestyle, On Penn State, The Good Life Tagged With: adult survivors of sexual abuse, bullying, coverage, flashbacks, Jerry Sandusky, male survivors of abuse, Media, mens news, opening statements, PA, pedophilia, Penn State, Pennsylvania, Sandusky, sexual abuse, State College, traumatic memories, trial, triggers

Sandusky, Triggers, and Self-Care

June 16, 2012 By Christopher M. Anderson Leave a Comment

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Some things you can do if news coverage of abuse stories is triggering you. From the Executive Director of MaleSurvivor.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Health, Psych, & Addiction, On Penn State, On Rape and Sexual Violence, The Good Life Tagged With: Jerry Sandusky, lifestyle, male survivors, mens news, news cycles, Penn State, rape, Sandusky, Sandusky trial, school, self-care, sexual abuse, survivors of sexual abuse, tabloids, The Good Life, trauma, trial, triggers, university

“It probably is normal behaviour for those who have been through abuse.”

June 12, 2012 By the Editors Leave a Comment

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This is a comment by Archy on the post “Why Women Aren’t Crazy”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: abuse, abuser, behavior, behaviour, crazy, emotional swings, emotions, memories, men, mood swings, pain, sexual abuse, triggers, understanding, verbal abuse, victims, women

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My Daughter Was Arrested, Expelled and Charged With a Felony for a Same-Sex Relationship She Had as a Minor

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