I Blamed The Victim, Too – Until I Became One

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Hera McLeod didn’t fully understand the damage victim blaming caused until she became a victim herself.

Women—To Move Equality Forward, Please Work With, Not Against Men

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Thomas Fiffer asks for a new, label-free language to resolve the gender equality deadlock.

Stop Thinking Like a Perpetrator: 4 Ways to Better Support Survivors of Sexual Violence

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Jamie Utt shows us four important ways to abandon perpetrator logic and stop denying the pain of survivors.

‘Why Didn’t She Leave?’ An Abuse Survivor Speaks

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Ella Hicks, founder of the Rebel Thriver community for abuse survivors, explains why Janay and millions of others don’t leave abusive relationships.

Fox and Friends Hosts Joke About Domestic Abuse

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Fox News host: Don’t want to get beaten unconscious in an elevator? Take the stairs. Hardy har har.

Hell Yeah, That Was Rape In Game of Thrones’ “Breaker of Chains”

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Alexander Yarde is frustrated with the media encouraging rape culture with dangerous rape scenes that encourage the “but she really wanted it” way of thinking.

6 Ways Jokes about Violence Against Men Harms Male Victims

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Andrew Smiler lists six reasons why we should stop laughing at male victims of violence.

Dear John Harvard: A Plea to Stop the ‘Second Rape’ That Follows Campus Sexual Assaults

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A student’s anonymous letter, ‘Dear Harvard: You Win,’ and a law lecturer’s stinging follow-up underscore why Harvard must fight fiercely for affirmative consent.

“Can Women rape men? Most people think that they can’t.”

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The 7 Real Reasons We Suck at Ending Domestic Violence

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A blueprint for creating a culture of respect.

Survivor Advocacy is Real Work (or I’m Not Your Dancing Monkey)

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James Landrith, survivor of sexual assault, does advocacy work. He doesn’t do it for entertainment. He does it to help other survivors and create social change.

5 Things to Do and 7 Things Not to Do When Someone Tells You They Were Sexually Assaulted

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Jack Fischl, with a how-to list of ways to be helpful, compassionate and empathetic to victims of sexual assault.

Why Do People Stay in Abusive Relationships?

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Dr. Craig Malkin explains that despite what some may claim, nobody actually likes being abused.

7 Pitfalls to Avoid When Dating a Sexual Assault Survivor

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Sarah Beaulieu struggled to find the right way to tell people she was a sexual assault survivor. Here’s how you can support loved ones who open up about sexual assault.

The Bizarre World of Anti-Rape Urban Legends

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An entire subgenre of urban legends consists of lying about how rape culture works. They’re not helping.

Sexist Iowa Court Ruling Reinstates Blame on Woman for Being Too Irresistible

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Warren Blumenfeld wonders how, in this day and age, we can still overtly discriminate against women for for the libidinous drives of their male employers.