- If you are talking to somebody who is looking around the entire conversation, they are probably eager to escape that conversation.
- Girls who are interested in you, act interested in you.
- Status exists in every social circle. There are “cool” nerds, and there are “loser” jocks. We create our own hierarchies.
- Sometimes, it’s way funnier in your head.
- Stories should be succinct and clever. Not long and convoluted.
- I’m a judgmental asshole sometimes. I think it’s a defensive move, a consequence of how I was socialized. But maybe it’s just my nature.
- “Ironic racism/sexism” relies heavily on a pre-establish social context. Without that context, it’s just racism/sexism.
- Don’t answer the question “how old do I look” if you are a man and the person asking the question is a woman. Just don’t. There is no correct answer.
- Awkward people are sometimes so awkward that they make people around them awkward. And then you start to feel like…hey, do they hate me, or do they just not know how to make small talk?
- Be certain that she really is looking at/talking to you before striding on over. There is a good chance that she is not.
Ten things I've learned from misreading social cues
Josh Bowman is a professional fundraiser, story-teller, comedian, and blogger. He has worked and consulted in Vancouver, New York, and now Toronto for almost a decade. Josh improvises around Toronto, including regular shows with Opening Night Theatre, and also blogs for the Huffington Post. You can email Josh or follow him on Twitter. If you want to submit a guestpost or know more about Josh, check this post and this post out first.