How to Go From A**hole to Good Man in 10 Easy Steps

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About Greg White

Author, blogger, television writer, world traveler, and inveterate bon vivant Greg White is also a former sergeant in the U.S. Marine Corps, now battling it out on the blogosphere at http://www.eatgregeat.com and http://www.gogreggo.com.

Greg has just finished his soon-to-be-published memoir about his Marine Corps boot camp experience. He served six years in the Marines. Truly a glutton, he also completed Officer Candidate School over the course of two summers---thus relishing the joys of basic training three times.

Greg has a voracious appetite for life and regularly contributes here and to The Huffington Post.

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  1. While the list itself is very good I am so tired of the endless media messages about how men need to become good/better because there is something wrong with them without there ever being sent similar messages to women. I`m suffering from anti male shaming fatigue and just can`t take it in anymore or be bothered with it even when it, such in this case, is a good message in isolation. That should tell people something.

    • Erik, you re a good enough person right now. And whatever Higher Power you believe in thinks you are good enough and loves you just as you are.

      That said, the above list will help you to enjoy life more and get better results, but you are already good enough.

  2. @Erik. Sorry you are suffering from shame. I will tell you however there are maaaaaaannnnnnyyyyyy websites/books etc on how to be a better wife, woman, mother, lover. How to be sexier, more fit, more assertive, more feminine etc etc. I really just had to point out how very extremely mistaken you are.

  3. Greg–despite the first few comments, I enjoyed your article. Your discipline and respectful service to others and this planet is refreshing. Thanks and Hoorah.

  4. Enjoyed this…most of it could be considered gender-neutral, right? I’d like a follow up (or pre-quel?)..”How to from Good Man to A**hole in 10 Easy Steps. In fact..I might start working on that one myself.

  5. Really? You’re an a**hole if you flush the toilet every time you use it? I always thought you were an a**hole if you DIDN’T flush every time…

    • Never , ever flush the urinal in a public restroom…
      You’ll understand that when you live in a place where water doesn’t always appear when the tap is turned.

  6. #6 strikes me more as a Pet Peeve of the author than a particularly good example of asshole vs. Good Man behavior. Not sure why it’s on this list.
    I say No problem all the time, it’s just a speech habit I picked up along the way and much like most other colloquialisms, I rarely think about it or say it literally – and I don’t expect that anyone I say it to is hearing me literally, either. I noticed that I’ve recently switched to “No sweat” – even when what the person is asking me wouldn’t cause me to break a sweat anyway. Asshole?

    In any case, saying “No problem” is not a problem, nor does it make you not a Good Man (Person). I actually think it’s a bit more asshole-ish to be all literal about it.

  7. Nate Whilk says:

    “Pick up a dropped quarter, find the owner or at least someone more deserving.” Or someone who lies and says it’s his.

    “Carry some old man’s groceries.” Or some woman’s. Or ANYONE, young or old, who seems to be having difficulty. However, at the very least, ASK THE PERSON FIRST. If the person says no, that’s their call, not yours. Respect their decision.

  8. The Bad Man says:

    I don’t see how this post is in any way particular to men. It’s simply good advice for all people.

    However, the option to not do several of those things does not make one an ahole.

    Men are good.

  9. Great stuff. All men should be this insightful. Greg White for President in 2016.

  10. Great article. Thanks for sharing.

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