I’m Not Mr. Mom

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About Jeff Bogle

Jeff Bogle is a stay-at-home dad who writes about parenting and All Things Childhood: kindie music, books, toys, gaming, & culture at Out With The Kids. He is married to an adorable redheaded gal and has two lovely little ladies under the age of 10 who provide him with countless hours of humorous in-home entertainment, and who get to do, hear, see and play with more cool stuff than you can possibly imagine. He considers himself one of the luckiest guys in the world, although he needs to be reminded of this fact from time to time. Jeff also blogs for The Good Men Project.

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  1. Good on you, Jeff, and may there be many more like you. I’m the daughter of a man who was a modern father and it has absolutely shaped who I am as a wife and a mother. Your daughters are lucky to have you.

  2. Yes! Yours is a story that warms my heart, to know the path has been traveled before and that a daughter is grateful for her modern dad. Thank you for your kinds words and for sharing a bit of your story with me!

  3. I get this. I too get that urge to make a fuss about all the silly things I read or hear, but in the end I’d rather spend my time being a father. And you know what – all the silly stuff, it’s nothing to do with me. I know what I’m worth as a parent, I and I know that I’m the one doing must of the housekeeping stuff in my family. That’s what works for us. Just like I’m the one to repair broke bikes and take the kids on crazy downhill skiing expeditions. Because I’m man enough to take my daughter out shopping for a fancy dress *and* to go tumble down a snowy hill with her. There’s no contradiction there.

    I don’t much get the SAHD stuff – but then, I live in a culture where stay-at-home parents are rare. I like to take care of children, I like to run the house, and I like my job. For us, a model where we both work full time and truly share at home is ideal.

  4. Spot-on, Lars. What does matter most to the people we love, and what will make most easily identifiable change in our own world is to demonstrate what it means to be a *modern* father by being that kind of dad to your own children. Outwardly enjoying all those piece of lives — childcare, running the home, and working — is a wonderful thing for a child to witness and will carry them far in life.

  5. Jeff Bogle you are a good man. I agree with everything you said and do my best to do the same with my three boys. But, don’t go so hard on Mr. Mom, I loved that movie, and don’t forget he gets the “mom” thing down in the end. Don’t worry too much about the condescending BS you get from other moms though, I see it as an insecurity issue on their part, as clearly you are a threat to become the “Kool-Aid house” (in my youth that was the house the neighborhood kids always congregate at because its always fun and always had great Kool-Aid”. I get some pretty interesting comments too when somehow I am discussing with with the neighborhood “super-mom” who I really don’t like, on how my sons and I planted tulips and potatoes in our backyard, and picked the tulips in the spring and harvested the potatoes in the summer and made mashed potatoes from scratch, I mean real scratch. Her condescending comment was “how cute, you do gardening? did your boys end up eating the tulip bulbs too, because they can be toxic” and I replied with a squinted determined stare and said, “maybe”.

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