Family planning involves men … but are we committed?
There’s a joke about the difference between being involved and being committed. A chicken is involved in a ham and eggs breakfast. The pig is committed.
A point we’ve made here on The Good Men Project about birth control is that it is not a women’s issue: it’s a human issue. Although this may not remain true forever, it still takes some kind of commitment, made by at least two people, even if they never meet. Stephen Colbert has humorously noted that the best way to avoid getting pregnant is to be a man, while the House votes to defund Planned Parenthood and a rich donor to the Santorum campaign is quoted as saying that women should use an aspirin tablet for their birth control.
Biology is not egalitarian. The Pill (and not the aspirin pill) jerked the scales closer to level, but females are still the only ones who get pregnant. In what ways do men contribute to family planning? Are the methods you are using, or have used, bearable, fair, or sane, for either party? Do you feel left out of the conversation altogether, assuming that women should manage this responsibility alone? Has birth control made your life better? What could men be doing to advance the aims of family planning in society, even if we can’t get pregnant, or don’t have procreative sex?
Answers to these and related questions are sought for an upcoming section in The Good Men Project Magazine, “Men and Contraception.” Submissions should be made through Submishmash. Deadline is Sunday, April 1. Questions may be emailed directly to Justin Cascio, Senior Editor, at firstname.lastname@example.org. Please include “Men and Contraception” in your Submishmash title or email subject line.
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