Men have abortion stories, too.
Whatever your views, abortion is not solely a women’s issue.
Men, as well as women, cross borders and break laws to get to abortion clinics. Men also end pregnancies with grief, reservations, fear, with relief, and under protest.
Men also protest on both sides of the issue of legal and safe abortion.
What conversations do you have with women about their beliefs around abortion? With other men?
How have your beliefs about abortion affected your actions around dating, sex, politics, work, or other areas of your life?
Send your submissions to Justin Cascio at [email protected] by July 28, 2012 for consideration.
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I hope someone has done an article for financial abortion. Would be quite an interesting subject. Does anyone know if anyone is actively lobbying for it and could be approached to write an article?
Men with abortion stories, huh? What a nebulous topic. To the guys saying “What about my rights to not have or support the kid I might get someone pregnant with?” I have to say “Why on earth aren’t you wearing a condom or having a freaking plan if you go swimming without a jacket?” Seriously, discuss this shit with your partner before sexytime occurs. I, for one, wouldn’t consider a guy who’s strictly anti-abortion to be a suitable partner. And if I had an opinion against abortion I wouldn’t want someone whose opinion didn’t match mine. I also wouldn’t date… Read more »
“I have to say “Why on earth aren’t you wearing a condom or having a freaking plan if you go swimming without a jacket?”
If you support abortion rights, that’s a terrible argument because that is precisely what is said to women seeking abortion by pro-lifers. If it’s wrong to say to her, it’s wrong to say to him. Pro-choice is about not forcing her OR him to become parents. This is what never gets discussed but should.
Ummm, No!
Shooting my load into a woman is not consent to my money for 18 years. Once again we see what the pro abortion lobby is all about. Reproductive options, control and power… but just for women.
I hear you, but I’m not sure anyone has a solution that gives men equal say in reproductive rights issues without exposing women or children to exploitation by resentful, domineering, dishonest, or deadbeat men. If you have ideas how this could work, let’s hear them. But if not, then I agree with lydia that the ultimate decision needs to go to the one who has to carry the child and who will be the default responsible party when it is born.
And I hear you, but I’m not sure anyone has a solution that gives men UNEQUAL say in reproductive rights issues without exposing men or children to exploitation by scornful, controlling, dishonest, or power hungry women. But if not, then I will repeat that the ultimate financial responsibility needs to go to the one who has decided to get pregnant and carry the child.
It’s not a matter of having “equal say.” It’s a matter of having post-conception say over whether they wish to become parents or not, just as women have. Nor is it a matter of forcing women to have or not have a baby. That is 100% her right. Just give men the choice to accept or reject parenthood one month after they are informed. This does not prevent or force the woman into or out of parenthood. Her choice is still her choice. This is even more fair to the woman, as she knows upfront whether or not he wants… Read more »
I would be interested in hearing them as well. Unfortunately, I don’t think men feel comfortable in this forum to do so. Just my opinion of course.
Also, how about strories of men who were shamed for not wanting her child? It’s assumed that if she wants it, he’s a deadbeat dad if he doesn’t also decide to want it.
What if he never wants it, even after birth? Is he a deadbeat dad? Or, is he like a woman who was forced against her will to continue a pregnancy she didn’t want? It would be interesting to hear some accounts about that scenario.
For this call, the story would have to involve abortion, somehow, so if it centered on a discussion of whether to have an abortion, and what that means to the man involved. Just as women bear almost all of the physical elements of reproduction, they also bear the effects of abortion. What does a man owe a woman in that case?
Fine, do that, but it’s been done so many, many times already. It would be nice to hear how men feel about reproductive rights for once.
I suggest doing a call that asks for a man’s perspective and interestes, not just a woman’s perspective and interests.
Reproductive rights is a large subject. We’ve had themes here on infertility and on contraception. I don’t think that men’s discussions of abortion have been done to death at all. Far from it. And that’s what this call is: men’s perspectives on abortion.
Few subjects have been discussed more than abortion, from ever possible angle, countless thousands of times over.
By contrast, almost NEVER discussed are men’s reproductive rights, from the male perspective, when she doesn’t want an abortion and he isn’t ready, able, and/or willing to be a parent.
That is virtually never discussed. Of all places, it should be discussed here.
Please add that to the list of future topics.
Justin how would I go about making a submission under this topic?
Email it to me at [email protected].
sent……..enjoy!