This comment by Karen Jones on the post A Look Inside her Mind: 5 Things Women want you to Know
I worry about this idea that it’s desirable for men to anticipate women’s needs. That puts men in a terrible position (the jokes about “mind-reading” abound for a reason).
For one thing, many women’s desires are not consistent, and have more of a fluid, ebb-and-flow thing going on. So not only would men have to anticipate needs, but have to be tuned in to what they are, in any given moment or situation. Yikes!
My vote is for women to first of all be clear about their desires (and for many women that can be such a challenge, for a number of reasons), and then to communicate them with respect and with trust that her man wants to provide her with what she needs – if he’s able to.
Yes, to be surprised and delighted is yummy. And it’s just not a workable model, as far as I can tell.
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Question of the Day:
Should we promote couple communication and trust instead of an unrealistic expectation of mind reading?
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Agreed. Makes sense for people to communicated and build understandings. Kind of what adults should do when relating and interacting.
If women want me to know it, they should tell me.