American men think they’re better in bed than they actually are. Either that, or they’re having a ton of sex with foreign women.
According to a national sex study from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, 85 percent of American men say their last sexual partner had an orgasm. Only 64 percent of American women say they had an orgasm the last time they had sex. So, what gives?
What are men doing wrong? Besides being really gullible? According to the survey, “women are more likely to orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts and when oral sex or vaginal intercourse is included,” so maybe, you know, uh, switch it up a little more. You know, in bed. If you catch my drift. Sexually. (Women, if you’re looking for a tip, here it is: “Men are more likely to orgasm when sex includes vaginal intercourse.”)
Check out the rest of the survey—America’s largest since 1994—here.
I see it’s an old post! But really American men are the best in bed! They always want to please the woman! They think about the woman, first and last. It’s pleasure and mindblowing sex! From my expirience!
So, the study says that women don’t have orgasms as often as men think they do. Men think women are having more orgasms than they are. ONE explanation for the gap is that men don’t care or are overconfident and clueless. ANOTHER explanation is the fake orgasm, which many women say they have performed and also say they don’t do anymore. Maybe some of these men are listening for feedback but getting inaccurate feedback….
I think the problem is that most men don’t even take the time to really talk to their partner. If our relationships had better communication I think men would be better lovers. Women are not blameless though. A relationship is a two way street and women can do their part by encouraging discussion in the bed room.
The funny thing is, most women are actualy REALLY bad in bed and know very little of what men truly want. I saw a “women’s magazine” article a year ago or so about “what men really want” in bed and the article was wrong on all points. Women are sexually clueless for a variety of social reasons so let’s not B.S. ourselves here…. women have to come out of the dark ages and stop blaming everyone else for their badly-designed-for-pleasure sex organs and social oppression.
I have to endorse this reluctantly. Many, many women are unschooled about how to give a man pleasure. A minority are not. Most of us are satisfied if we get a woman who is at least open to recieving pleasure. One lover I had between marriages also convinced me that women’s sexuality has also been colonized either directly by porn or indirectly by men who were trained by porn. Not very sensual, and incorporated all the porn fetishes. It was possible to get relaxed, but she was strongly “anchored” (as the NLP people would say) by some very rough practices… Read more »
I do think women are designed for almost infinite pleasure– but they self and other repress to a tremendous degree, in spite of sex-positive feminism and the sexual revolution of the 60s-70s. This repression is part of a group strategy to keep the price of sex high by not let anyone give it away too freely (“slut” etc. are used at least as much by women as men.) Women may be much more reluctant to discuss techniques, pleasuring, etc. among themsleves in order to learn good self and other pleasuring than men are. We’re still in a very Victorian era,… Read more »
The study cited asked women if they had an orgasm during their last sexual encounter and 64% say yes. They didn’t ask the other 36% if they were dissatisfied or if they thought their partners were bad lovers. Women don’t need to have an orgasm every time to have a satisfying sexual encounter. Yes, it’s nice, but not always necessary. Not like it is with guys. Sometimes a woman might be very stimulated and reach a peak that falls off again without an actual orgasm. Sometimes you want a quickie and there just isn’t enough stimulation for a sufficiently long… Read more »
“Yes, it’s nice, but not always necessary. Not like it is with guys.” It’s not about necessity, but wanting it. You CAN have an orgasm most of the times, so why not? You women focus so much on the “not necessary” part of the orgasm, I feel sorry for you. Very deluded. “Sometimes you want a quickie and there just isn’t enough stimulation for a sufficiently long amount of time to get to the finish line.” And so you American women just decide the “finish line” is when the man orgasms and nothing else can be done after that. I… Read more »
It’s probably because so many American men are circumcised.
It’s probably because American men don’t give head that much, and definitely much less than women give to them. Women like clitoral stimulation.
The entire premise of this article is foolish. You simply can’t apply an arbitrary fixed grading system such as “being good in bed” or “being bad in bed” to men. Every experienced male lover knows that each woman responds differently, and to different things, at different times, in different situations, in different moods, than other women. Many, many studies have shown that women orgasm more often to fantasies than anything else – i.e rape fantasies, gang-bang fantasies, taboo sex fantasies, risk-of-getting caught fantasies, submission fantasies etc, so it is galactically stupid to place the responsibility of identifying the one that… Read more »
I’m a woman… Don’t tell me what I get off to.
And it certainly isn’t ‘fantasies’… It’s clitoral stimulation.
Sorry for my last post, i forgot to take my meds.
Now im cool, you’re obviously right Alphabeta.
Women’s sexual satisfaction has anything to do with men who actually aren’t selfish prick who believe “sex” is when you use a woman for masturbation. And come on, of course women get off by fantasies when they are masturbating… most people fantasize when they are masturbating. They usually stimulate their clitoris along with it as well, so that does the job. Your list of fantasies that women usually have is way off, by the way, but ok. “If you expect sexual satisfaction every time you have sex, what are you doing to learn about your own sexuality so that you… Read more »
Guess what? Most of you SUCK in bed. We are just too polite/kind/nice to tell you. You are all too rough, too fast, too slow, too lazy, whatever.
How about asking what we want instead of thinking we are going to perform like Jenna Jameson for your viewing pleasure or whatever it is you wank off to?
Oh, and if you wouldn’t beat off so much, you’d be able to enjoy sex more. You’re building up callouses on your dick.
Who cares what you want ?
Most of you females SUCK in bed (in both senses…).
Only thing we want is to use you as cum dumpsters.
Thats what we do. If you dont like it, who gives a f**k ?
Mike who says “who cares what women like”: Why don’t you go f*ck yourself? Oh, you do that all the time? I never would have guessed.
Well, at least one honest American man here.
I bet American men give thier women a lot more orgasms than American women give their men. I bet American women even imagine they are giving their men orgasms when it’s really the men doing it all on thier own while the woman lies there waiting for hers. And I bet an American woman will regret the day her man talks a quick walk on the wild side because she was clueless about where his buttons were, and he never really makes all the way it back over to the straight side.
You’re going gay? Awesome. More women for me to give orgasms to.
Fred, an eunuch like yourself cannot give women any orgasms.
I wouldn’t be so sure about that, and look who’s talking.
There are RESEARCHES about it. The researches say American women enjoy much less orgasms than American men. American men orgasm most of the times, American women don’t. American women also give more oral sex than American men are willing to give back.
And sorry, because of anatomy, of course there are much less positions women can take control of.
“(…) and he never really makes all the way it back over to the straight side.”
Sorry dude, that only means the guy wasn’t straight to begin with.
Until women pay their way equally in a relationship, who cares?
I hope that was sarcasm. I really do.
Hawk says that he doesn’t care about a woman’s pleasure unless she pays her own way. If that became the norm, Hawk, women would become unbelievably picky about which men to date, marry (and even more so) have sex with. There would be an increase in lesbianism, too. Most men feel the need for sex a whole lot more than most women. I know that makes a lot of men angry, but that’s how it is. Men have around 5 times the testosterone (major sex drive hormone) of women, on average, maybe more. A man trying to get a woman… Read more »
How wrong could men be doing it? Two out of three of the women in this study had an orgasm.
Wait. What’s that you say? A female orgasm?? Never heard of it.
But I am awesome in bed.