I literally feel like when I just looked
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at him I was like wow his eyes are so
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pretty the first time that I see him I
00:24
just felt like a connection like through
00:25
his eyes I love his personality his love
00:28
he was makes me laugh all day
00:31
hi I’m ray and my Instagram name is Ray
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papi marco medina i was born and raised
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in South Central LA I was born in Cuba
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me my mom and my brother we moved to
00:41
Miami where I was raised I am a gay
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latino I am a personal trainer I’m an
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actor so I’m always going to auditions
00:48
I’m always on the run we actually
00:50
followed each other on Twitter and
00:53
Instagram and Ray shot me a DM yeah I
00:59
came to LA and we we hung out before you
01:04
know it I saw him every single day
01:09
[Music]
01:13
the moment that we first kiss I don’t
01:16
remember the first I don’t remember the
01:17
first kiss we could because we might
01:19
have been like drunk or something but I
01:22
do remember a very emotional moment for
01:26
us or I think we said like I love you
01:29
yeah
01:29
and it was at Coachella and like we were
01:31
partying in like we both like looked at
01:32
each other and were like wow like you
01:34
know I love you like it really meant
01:36
something we don’t really talk too much
01:38
about our feelings like we don’t tell
01:40
you sure that we love you allegory yeah
01:41
I’m gonna databases you know we just
01:43
assumed that we loved each other this
01:45
for like we feel like the love like I
01:46
don’t feel like you have to tell them I
01:48
love you every day for them to know that
01:50
you love them coming out yay was
01:59
interesting because my mother’s a
02:02
lesbian and she was already with her
02:04
partner for a couple years and my
02:06
younger sister actually just came out
02:08
and I maybe six months later came out
02:10
that I was gay as well being a gay Mayo
02:12
it’s the stigma that like you’re gonna
02:16
catch HIV and that was like really the
02:18
only big concern from families
02:20
perspective was don’t catch HIV don’t
02:22
catch aids
02:23
because all gay men do growing up like I
02:26
remember my dad telling me oh don’t play
02:28
with girls or like don’t full you know
02:31
don’t fold your hand like that and you
02:32
know I hope you know like I would always
02:33
hear bad comments about gay people I
02:36
definitely grew up not wanting to be gay
02:38
and I knew that I liked boys growing up
02:41
with two moms when I was younger was a
02:44
little difficult people at my school
02:45
were very like judgmental and bringing
02:49
friends over to the house and
02:50
introducing them to like my game moms I
02:53
would say that that’s my mom’s sister
02:55
that’s my aunt I wasn’t embarrassed but
02:58
I didn’t want people to know because I
03:00
didn’t want to be judged or you know
03:02
made front of yeah I’ve definitely been
03:04
called a faggot before that you know
03:06
that definitely made me feel bad
03:08
it made me feel like I didn’t want to be
03:10
gay coming out and being a Latino family
03:14
surprisingly everyone was pretty
03:17
supportive especially a lot of my my
03:21
uncles and who are very masculine and
03:23
like our have they’re locked in a ways
03:26
they never treated me differently I was
03:29
very fortunate to have a very
03:30
open-minded family now that I’m older I
03:34
love announcing that you know I have a
03:36
very big gay family
03:38
[Music]
03:49
[Applause]
03:50
well I cook I clean I think for the most
03:55
part were pretty equal sexually in the
03:57
house everything it’s like it’s teamwork
03:59
it takes to the tango I literally wake
04:03
up every morning and I make him
04:04
breakfast and coffee before you goes to
04:05
work mm-hmm so I feel like I’m very like
04:08
very attentive and I’m always like you
04:11
know making sure that everything he
04:12
needs to do is in order so nothing goes
04:14
wrong I think I kind of go like out of
04:17
my way a little for him to like make him
04:20
make sure he’s happy you know take him
04:22
out to dinner and like spoil him so
04:25
there is a stigma out there that gay men
04:28
are not made to be in long-term
04:31
relationships but I’m definitely I don’t
04:34
feel like I you know like I believe in
04:36
that stigma I feel like every couple
04:38
goes through hardships and their
04:40
relationship whether is like cheating or
04:43
miscommunication there’s gonna be times
04:45
where you’re gonna make a mistake yeah I
04:46
mean I think it’s definitely a
04:48
communication and being able to fulfill
04:51
each other’s needs even when there is
04:52
like temptation you gotta remind
04:54
yourself like you’ve invested a lot of
04:56
time into this relationship and do you
04:58
really would you really want to just
04:59
like throw it away for something that’s
05:01
temporary
05:03
[Music]
05:07
my advice to any like gay Latino trying
05:10
to come out or you know live their life
05:13
try to find someone that they can trust
05:17
in you know just know that wherever
05:18
you’re at you know it does not it
05:21
doesn’t mean everybody else’s like that
05:22
it doesn’t mean the whole world is like
05:24
that as you go through life you’re gonna
05:26
find people that love you for who you
05:28
are and you know being queer is nothing
05:31
bad it’s just being you you just make me
05:37
feel like um enough you make me feel
05:40
happy strong you constantly remind me
05:45
that I am capable of anything I put my
05:48
mind to
05:48
yeah just constantly remind me that I am
05:51
I’m the one for you
05:53
and that you love me I don’t realize
05:57
that um how much I need you
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