what are you writing you’re like setting
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me Wow
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hi I’m Lane Moore I have a new book out
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called how to be alone if you want to
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and even if you don’t I am the creator
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of comedy show tinder live and I am in
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the band it was bromance I do all of the
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things so I wrote the book how to be
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alone because I’ve been alone most of my
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life I didn’t really have the ideal
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family and I think that that’s true for
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so many people but especially queer
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people I think that so many of us had
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rough childhoods even if you had a
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really really wonderful family
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adolescence was tough and childhood was
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tough and trying to find a way to
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connect and so not really having that
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kind of foundation that we’re all
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supposed to have has really impacted me
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in a big way in terms of how I’m able to
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connect and date and all these things
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and so I wanted to share my experience
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of that for everybody else who feels
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lonely all the time even though they
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feel like they’re surrounded by people
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so I was the sex and relationships
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editor at cosmopolitan where I made it
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super super queer it should be noted
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I’ve been doing tender life for a really
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long time I’ve written about
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relationships and things of that for
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glamour and self and GQ and Playboy and
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all of the things and I’m also super
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single so pretty qualified I’m looking
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at everybody’s tinder and Grindr
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profiles and and wasn’t them to see if
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that could be improved as most profiles
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game sometimes I’m looking for dates
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sometimes I’m looking for like I don’t
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know an alpha assertive top but depends
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on the day I’m not really sure what I’m
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looking for
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I’m also obtaining someone and it’s kind
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of like an open thing at the moment so
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that’s the thing I don’t have a specific
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thing I’m looking for I think I’m open
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to anything I’m not getting anything out
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of tinder like I’ve been on maybe like
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two tinder dates in my life because I
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feel like people just we talk and then
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nothing happens I love your t-shirt he
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has a shirt that says why do you racist
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sexist homophobic or transphobic when
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you could just be quiet and then he’s
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wrapped in what looks like the backdrop
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behind him ya know it’s like I want it
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to be very like Virgin Mary like that’s
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kind of what I want to exude yeah it
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also does look a little bit like someone
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threw laundry at you and that’s how it
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landed um first of all your hair looks
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amazing pink also Wow shout out to the
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like Paula Poundstone power suits with
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the pink hair and the George Michael
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earring
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oh my god you picked up on it that
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like no one ever gets so he’s a drugs
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Michael thing Oh
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shirtless bathroom selfie are those
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little panties in the background who’s
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those panties those are um that’s a hat
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see the brim it’s actually resting on
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top of my grad school diploma which I’ve
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never taken out a bottle of I love it
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your body looks like a face like your
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your nipples are isin your your even
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your bellybutton is like it’s a little
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it’s a little thought II I get more
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messages because I don’t have a shirt on
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it’s just a science Greg oh is that is
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that there’s no more photos um you have
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a freaking tiny cowboy hat on your head
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they look so serious it’s not a candle
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it’s actually a candle so people will be
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like oh nice hat and I’m like it’s a
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candle like it’s a great starter you
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know arguing ha ha the candle you can
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mansplain your it’s gray your grinder
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Provo am i doing it wrong I love that
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picture of me but it’s three years old
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but I still look like that don’t look
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like that it’s not different glasses you
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just feel just happy right now in front
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of you or in the pictures Wow Hillary
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your silence is deafening
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you do look like you’re getting more
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depressed that this profile goes on oh
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my god well that’s it like to be me I’m
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the first date it’s like oh wow so much
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energy and by the fourth date it’s like
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listen this is my trauma yeah totally
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and you’re gonna so we’re dating in
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general right yeah you’re just like oh
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are we so fun so at five do you feel
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like this profile is working for you in
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the way you want to UM it’s working all
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right yeah like maybe sometimes I prefer
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dates to random hookups and maybe I’m
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not articulating that the right way but
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then also random hookups are fun
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sometimes Cheers it literally says say
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hi that is the most boring thing ever
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okay that’s how much I didn’t even
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notice that was vaio admittedly I can
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say you just aren’t there it’s boring
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journalist I got a cute face trouble you
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a snake legs oh my god we’re already
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rhyming I love it
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it’s taking legs in shape rum shake in
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both ways make you do a double take
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Aires if it gets to that even again so
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that I like you yeah it’s Missy Elliott
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lyrics and then I feel like if people
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know that it’s Missy Elliott lyrics
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that’s already like a something to talk
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about nice – I know she’s got frosting
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on my pants yeah I like it
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swipe right oh honey
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I would mention the open relationship
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thing and I say that because it’s like
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people who might not be looking for that
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it’s like then you’re wasting your time
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you know what I mean it’s like it’s look
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cuz I know that’s like that can be a
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tricky thing people and it’s like you
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don’t have time for that shit you want
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someone who’s just like yeah yeah great
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also you seem like an interesting cool
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kind person so I feel like there’s more
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that you could say maybe like some sort
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of okay it’s really long it’s so long
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what do you want to attract so if you
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have anything I don’t have like one
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thing I’m necessarily looking for on
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dating apps I think I’m open to all
05:14
types of connections whether it’s a date
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or just a funny chat with someone or
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hook up with someone q like I’m kind of
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just open-minded to anything that could
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come from it so I don’t specify because
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I don’t know I’m okay what are you
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writing I know it’s scary but I think
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it’s okay to just say like I’m actually
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looking for a relationship and you can
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do it in like a fun funny way that feels
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right for you to use your own words that
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I will say the thing about your profile
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is it is like very silly and playful but
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that could read it like I just want to
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fuck well I love fucking well that’s
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okay but you don’t like if you want
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something right more than that then it’s
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I think it’s really good to put that I
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want something more than that because a
05:53
person who is like should I do – they
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might not know that about you whenever I
05:57
see dates flaws or like dates or more I
05:59
think that if someone who likes doesn’t
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really care about the date it’s like
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open to going on dates you even want to
06:03
go on dates so maybe that’s something to
06:06
be edited dates preferred is about yeah
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I’m gonna write in all caps I love what
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I wrote Oh God so I left the Dyke boy
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thing there cuz I get why that’s
06:19
important and then I said and yes I am
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the real George Michael in an open
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relationship and looking for someone who
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loves George Michael again I am very
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cool it’s true say hi to my body which
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looks like a face see my nipples are
06:31
eyes my bellybutton is a mouth what’s up
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girl
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let’s see what’s in the room thank you
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a bit of a right in parentheses I also
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love sex Oh honestly I’ve created a
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master be in love I feel like I’ve done
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it oh wait let’s add something up I’m
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also gonna write bonus points spot the
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candle they’re gonna be like there’s no
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candle I’m gonna be like there is and
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then now you’ve omitted your argument
07:07
you gave them a little fun challenge
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that’s just like enough this is enough
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of like this guy’s like a fun weirdo
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what I liked about doing it this way is
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that it’s saying open relationship and
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immediately making a joke
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so it’s like it’s not something it’s not
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you know what I mean cause like
07:21
sometimes that can have this weight to
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it I think I think that’s what you saw
07:25
another profile you’re always like I
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think that’s you know clearly your
07:29
energy is very exuberant
07:30
I know people tell me I’m so exciting
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and fun exactly and this profile
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indicates the high octane level of vibe
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that you bring to your everyday life I
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think that’s really fun
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plus you look like a gay nineties
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cartoon you’re like jiving me I feel
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like most people don’t overall yeah my
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thoughts by your profile no I fix it
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perfect
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I think it’s a lot better I’m excited
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it’s less clear profile
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oh my goodness oh my god no no well you
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know I’m a great grubber I have been
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since high school so I really wanted to
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earn this a and I’m so excited very
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happy that I did well today did you just
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give an acceptance speech to my tinder
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notes hmm okay every day is an
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opportunity for an acceptance speech I
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just want to say that
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