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I might skip a meal or I might not eat
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that kindness burrito presents a very
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clean bottom he can bottom spontaneously
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on this five-day that’s really implying
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hi my name is treszura my ambulance
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dispatcher my name is Christian and I
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work in mental health services for queer
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people of color we met on Instagram I
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saw a picture of present and avid I said
00:29
damn that dude this is Oh fine he
00:31
messaged me and said God took his
00:33
sweet-ass time on you and I thought it
00:34
was really sweet so kind of cheesy but I
00:36
guess it worked
00:44
unofficially we’ve been together for
00:46
three years
00:46
so when I saw him I knew I was in love
00:49
with him from first initially I just
00:51
wanted a gay best friend out here in LA
00:53
Dresden and I had a lot in common and I
00:55
felt like he was that person for me and
00:57
I was especially out the closet in love
01:00
with the man of my dreams
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[Music]
01:08
I believe that monogamy is a social
01:12
construct there are a lot of norms and
01:14
expectations imposed on us for what
01:17
relationships are supposed to look like
01:19
and I think it’s really important for
01:21
for us to just really express how we
01:24
feel and what we need and really have
01:26
the opportunity to redefine what a
01:28
relationship means according to our
01:31
agreements and what we want we’re just
01:32
both humans and we both have temptations
01:34
and desires and it’s it’s better just to
01:37
communicate the desires with your
01:38
partners and we’re in different cities
01:41
we’ll maybe download the app just a few
01:43
weeks ago over in Vegas and we’re
01:45
walking down the strip you know just
01:46
having the time of our lives and we’re
01:48
like hey do you want done with Grindr
01:49
and see what what’s going on out here
01:51
we were very unsuccessful okay it was
01:54
like 3:00 a.m. and like nobody was awake
01:56
he can’t even though we’re both averse
01:58
we’re very sexually compatible when I
02:00
perform a more top role and you’re on
02:02
the bottom right would you I think love
02:09
is when just feel so safe with that
02:11
person you feel at home you would just
02:14
do anything for that person love to me
02:16
means being excited every day about your
02:18
partner and wanting to grow more in love
02:20
with them wanting to share every
02:22
experience with them I love you I fell
02:35
in love with tresine because we’re very
02:37
similar he’s super chill has a kind
02:39
heart and is really carrying a little
02:41
awkward that Sergey Christian is a
02:45
I planned out person and he just keeps
02:48
me in scheduling and check he helps me
02:51
get things done he helps me in so much
02:54
aspects of my life and what I just
02:56
appreciate you so much thank you my love
03:05
for you grows every day and through that
03:07
intensity I hope that we never feel
03:09
limited never feel like we’re losing our
03:11
individuality and creativity I want to
03:13
continue to learn how to understand you
03:15
and how to be in love with you I love
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you for being my rock and keeping me
03:21
safe and making me always feel safe and
03:23
protected I want to thank you before
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just being you and I love you so much
03:29
with me to thank you for being my person
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