But in truth, no one – not even the worst sinner or purest saint – is ever either totally good or bad. We’re all a perplexing mixture of the two. Maturity means resisting the urge either to denigrate or to worship excessively.
“If there is one generalisation to hazard about maturity, it is that it involves neither profoundly idealising, nor denigrating other people.
But let’s begin with babies. The pioneering mid-20th century Viennese psychoanalyst Melanie Klein famously drew attention to something very dramatic that happens in the minds of babies during feeding sessions with their mothers…”
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