But the work he is most passionate about is helping other victims of bullying rediscover their confidence through self-defence and coaching. One person who has benefitted from Ricky’s support is 18-year-old Harrison, who was physically bullied for three years – until he met Ricky.
I had my clothes thrown in the shower once,
during PE, so I had to go home in wet clothes.
There was, like, physical bullying, people beating you up
and then getting your clothes thrown in the shower.
I worked for the UFC,
so I worked with all the best martial artists in the world.
I run my own martial arts gym and fitness gym, but to be honest,
most of the stuff we do, for me,
is all about the anti-bullying and making people confident.
Ricky’s always been there, as in, you can call him up whenever,
no matter what it’s for, how silly it is.
He’ll always answer the phone. He’s always there for you.
What the kids really buy into more is vulnerability.
Me, I’m really vulnerable.
I’m OK with saying it immediately.
So if I’m talking to kids or adults, I’m OK with telling my story.
Then you’ve got him.
I think I started getting bullied at roughly about eight or nine,
and it was just verbal bullying.
And then when I was about 11, 12, 13,
a guy used to come round every summer.
He used to carry a knife and threatened to cut my neck.
So as soon as summer would come, I would go into myself a lot.
So when people talk to me about anxiety and depression,
I really get that.
Then I started doing martial arts a little bit,
like boxing and stuff, and I started fighting back
and then without realising, I became the bully.
As soon as anyone stared at me, I wanted to attack ’em
because I thought, “I can’t go through that again”.
To me, it felt like that was weakness.
Then I had to go through that stage and come out the other end
and realise I’d become what I used to be afraid of.
So that’s why it’s great now.
I can work with the kids, because I get it.
When people come and they’ve got an issue,
I can say, “We can help you” straight away,
but it has to start with the person helping themselves.
Leave me alone!
Nice. She’s done that before!
It’s not like,
“Oh, yeah, we’re going to make them tough so they can fight back”.
I want to make them tough enough so they can choose not to do that.
And every now and then, it might need more than that
and we’ll refer them on to specialists,
but it has to start with that first step, you know,
of them actually turning up.
When Ricky told me about how his life was
and you find out he was bullied too,
when someone’s gone through something
that you’ve been through as bad as it was,
it feels like you’re not alone.
Before I was coming here when I was 17,
I was going down the wrong path with the wrong things.
And now I look forward to MMA. It’s really fun.
It helps you get anger out in a different way
so that at the end of it, you’re much happier
and you feel like a better person and it’s just good for you.
He was super brave,
and I think he’s come on amazing and he should be proud of himself.
I think the main reason I do this
is seeing people change, and what it does for them.
They turn up in a certain way and a little while down the line,
they’re completely different people.
It’s a beautiful thing.
That’s it, use one of them. Perfect.
Good, good, good.
Get behind him, nice.
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