In this mind-blowingly powerful Tedx talk, Carlos Andrés Gómez explains how fear is used to pound boys and men into a mold, into the shape of what society wants. Hard, cold, tough, unfeeling, more prone to violence than tears…
“It’s not about the fear that keeps you alive, it’s about the fear that keeps you from fully living.”
At 1:22, Carlos explains how, even as little boys, society starts to tell you what being a man looks like.
At 2:15 he makes a confession about himself as a kid that most of us would be too afraid to admit.
But just wait until you get to 5:30, where Carlos tells a story that will change the way you see men—and masculinity—forever.
“For a brief moment, we were both finally free.”