hi there I’m transgender supermodel ari
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swans and I’ve got something to say so
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when I read the statement that was
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published about Victoria’s Secret
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explaining as to why they will not use
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trans woman I was really angry at first
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to have a company that you understand
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will probably never use you in their
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shows anyway because you don’t quite fit
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that one-percent mold or essentially
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saying I don’t fill the fantasy to hear
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them kind of exclude me from that vision
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was like a knife in my heart you’re
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saying that I’m not part of a fantasy
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that’s one person’s fantasy I am
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millions of people’s fantasy and I am a
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woman I belong with the other women
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growing up as a little kid I mean my
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friends would watch it every Christmas
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so it meant a lot being young dreaming
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of doing that so when I heard it
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recently it heard me a lot because I
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just look at the kid at that age that I
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was in looking up to something and being
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like beauty is thought of as just one
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way one type of body one type of
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identity we’re in the freaking 21st
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century it’s time to mix it up and show
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that Beauty exists in all body shapes
01:10
all identities were all beautiful and
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our unique and incredible ways I was a
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kid who always watched it when I was
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younger I was like oh I’m going to be
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sickening I will be the one we’re in the
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Fantasy Bra that statement came out my
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childhood dreams just like shattered to
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say that we could not be part of that
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fantasy is almost like saying nobody
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could be attracted to us we have the
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right to be loved and to be found as
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attractive once again I’m not accepted I
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don’t fit in the line when I think of
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fantasy I definitely think of a trans
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woman as well any woman regardless of
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your gender identity background
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ethnicity whatever should be allowed to
01:51
leave their fantasy you’re telling me
01:53
my body’s not worth it my body’s not
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there I think trans people and
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especially plus-size transform people
02:00
are like the most powerful people in our
02:02
community trans girl is not viewed as
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women anymore we’re fighting so hard for
02:07
that even at this day and age
02:09
not only chance drugs but you’re also
02:11
attacking plus-sized girls I think it’s
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funny that your fantasy is nowhere near
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mine when yours was part of a mine at
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one point so it very much hurts in a way
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that I didn’t see coming but I’m just a
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flat out here that you don’t want us
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around which is what it is
02:27
you guys are people who are outdated and
02:29
you’re gonna be run over by a new
02:30
generation because it’s not gonna work
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out for you for me to feel beautiful to
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feel sexy is waking up every day and
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looking in the mirror and seeing that my
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outside matches my inside it took a long
02:44
time to get here and if people can’t
02:46
appreciate that I don’t need them to
02:48
what makes me feel empowered sexy or
02:52
beautiful I think it’s just all about
02:55
going out there this world is so tough
02:59
and sometimes I can get dark but if you
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start with yourself you can handle
03:03
anything there life brings to you when I
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feel like I can be myself 100% and I
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don’t have to hide behind any labels and
03:13
I don’t have to feel ashame of Who I am
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I want Mexico and Howard is just having
03:19
all these people stand up for trans
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right and also for plus-size girls and
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guys I think that’s the most amazing
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thing ever being able to express myself
03:28
in however way I want it’s me being sexy
03:31
when I feel strong and empowered that’s
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when I feel the most sexy recognizing
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everything that I’ve done for myself
03:39
that’s when I feel the most powerful and
03:42
I worked really hard to be the person I
03:44
am I am living my fantasy and for
03:46
someone to define fantasy for me and
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assist hetero White Way it’s not my
03:50
thing as a trans person you go through
03:52
this process of coming out of
03:54
transitioning you find the beauty within
03:57
yourself in that process and you learn
04:00
to love all of yourself not try to fit
04:03
into any mold that exists before you and
04:06
so for me it’s about authenticity if I
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feel like I’m being the best version of
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myself that I can today then that makes
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me feel really sexy
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