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you prefer to look at me a twink would
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fall in anyway growth do you have a
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racial preference no you’re the best
00:11
kind of gay it’s impulsive a spot glad
00:14
this isn’t a family program we’re gonna
00:16
check out some dick pics see the BIOS
00:19
they like likes only Latinos only Asians
00:21
only it’s like why only these are
00:23
fucking fun I’m a responder and I’m a
00:25
pair of legs with a head there is
00:31
prejudice versus preferences hey guys
00:39
welcome back to what the flip I’m aria
00:40
swans and today we’re gonna talk about
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daddies and twinks hi my name is Liam
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Riley I’m 25 and I think I would
00:49
describe myself as a feminine kind of
00:53
bottom twink my name is Henry it’s God
00:56
my age you mean on Grindr or my real age
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I’m 67 I don’t have my age on Grindr
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people tend to be a little
01:06
discriminatory when they see my age
01:08
obviously with stigma and stereotypes
01:10
everybody thinks that twink often
01:12
expires after a certain kind of age I’ve
01:14
also learned to like growing up to kind
01:17
of embrace the word twink because it can
01:19
also kind of come off as draaga Tori
01:21
typically the guys who hit me up or
01:23
younger guys usually the first message I
01:25
get is a daddy exclamation mark so
01:28
clearly if they see me as an older guy
01:31
I’ve kind of just embraced it I’m like
01:33
yeah I’m a twink but it has nothing to
01:34
do with my age it’s just more of my
01:36
personality yes and I preferred daddy’s
01:39
sugar sugar if we’re gonna be real
01:42
specific I’m a splendid daddy oh my god
01:45
I’ve had I had to cut them loose I need
01:47
more right mother
01:48
yeah yeah I also need shoes for that
01:51
sort of splendid Eddie is when you have
01:52
to keep inquiring yeah is there yeah so
01:55
daddy’s art Winx I say Dinks I’ll say
01:58
daddies sometimes daddies can be very
02:01
educated in a way of teaching you how to
02:03
grow in life sexually well yeah
02:05
definitely twink sir daddy’s dad is what
02:08
do you consider yourself otter or
02:09
squirrel I don’t know you consider
02:11
yourself a twink or a daddy a daddy
02:12
twink a dink
02:14
we got another date kid that’s a second
02:16
one tonight I love it twing sir daddy
02:18
both if I can what do you consider
02:20
yourself a very unhappy medium a drink
02:23
okay guys so you guys need to exchange
02:26
phones and we’re gonna figure out what
02:28
we’re looking at here I got him a little
02:31
nervous we’re just gonna scroll back no
02:35
be careful he’s happy
02:37
who feels triggered let’s see mine cuz I
02:40
want to hear mine oh yeah the thing that
02:42
really grabs my attention is that pup
02:45
and when it comes to tribes he says he’s
02:47
a twink so which i think is quite
02:50
interesting he says he is a bottom
02:52
surprise it’s a great little profile I’m
02:55
not my type it’s right here hello we
03:03
here at the star called me by your name
03:04
what’s your name honey hi I guess
03:05
Timothy sha’lame Oh sweetie I’m 21
03:12
what age range do you usually date I
03:14
usually like to date older but the past
03:17
couple years I’ve been dating younger
03:20
and it’s been a nightmare who’s the
03:22
oldest you date who’s the youngest you
03:23
date go oldest I think I got to
03:26
Authority you know in Hollywood 40 would
03:29
pay your bills for you if any 40 year
03:31
old once pay my rent like let me know so
03:33
Liam what does your experience been on
03:34
dating apps I have a pic collector
03:36
anything I’m guilty of that oh so you
03:38
get dick pics Yankee bum and then
03:42
somebody hits me up and they’re like
03:43
into generous what’s into general daddy
03:47
is Oh
03:48
I’m not into that no not on your dating
03:50
app okay all the time you have you heard
03:52
of this thing called you know being a
03:55
twink have you experienced a lot of
03:56
fetishism or date guys and you look at
03:59
all their exes that they all look just
04:01
like you I have dated guys like that
04:02
before where there’s like a clear
04:04
similarity of like what their types are
04:07
but not always but I do get fetishized
04:09
sometimes for being a twink to me I just
04:11
find it very normal I’m like thank you
04:12
and I just go on with my day okay so you
04:14
don’t mind being photos honest no I find
04:17
it flattering a little bit okay reckful
04:19
he’s going for our look honey and he’s
04:22
like I’m nailing it daddies are twinks
04:24
oh twinks honey I am a daddy you
04:26
identify as a daddy of course well at
04:28
some point you don’t have a choice where
04:29
do you put yourself ah like toned twink
04:32
toned Harry Potter x-wing Harry Potter
04:35
wannabe tone twink absolutely sure
04:37
ten points to Gryffindor it’s one of
04:39
those things where I know that there’s a
04:41
lot of people who aren’t going to be
04:42
interested in me because of my age and
04:43
that’s fine it’s not like I want
04:45
somebody who doesn’t want me I’ve been
04:46
in the guys like in their 60s if they
04:48
take care of themselves and they’re well
04:49
put they also take care of you very well
04:51
in fact I would say aged lovers know a
04:54
little bit more of what they’re doing
04:55
absolutely I meant with money honey I
04:57
was a sugar daddies all right so let’s
05:00
you want to hang your teeth like I’m a
05:03
lovely picture Johansson had a great
05:06
chat now getting to the bio attracted to
05:09
younger guys I sort of have a formula I
05:13
don’t want to go out with older guys
05:15
generally so I divide my age in half by
05:18
two and I will add an extra year if a
05:21
guy has a graduate degree served in the
05:24
military or is from a foreign country I
05:26
love a veteran discount
05:29
guys who are driven and emotionally
05:31
mature me his gender identity is truck
05:36
driver what does that mean I would like
05:40
to identify as rich white woman
05:42
tell us of that truck drive it’s just
05:43
you know a little fantasy tough guy you
05:47
know blue-collar why do you think
05:59
younger guys are attracted to you I
06:01
think that that people each had the
06:03
thing that they’re looking for it’s
06:04
ingrained and we think it’s all about oh
06:05
I just like this but really it’s about
06:07
when you’re seven and and somebody says
06:09
something about somebody or other and
06:10
all these things change and and mold
06:13
what we find to be attractive and so why
06:16
does somebody think that I’m attractive
06:17
I don’t know
06:18
it’s it’s from what they went through
06:20
the triggers that showed them when they
06:22
were really young this is what is
06:23
desirable
06:24
the short answer for that is trauma
06:26
trauma shapes what you want bitch Hank
06:28
would you say that has age helped or
06:30
hindered
06:31
I think but I’ll tell you why I don’t
06:34
state my age on the app but I’m very
06:36
open if someone asks my age and people
06:38
do I find you guys often think I’m much
06:41
younger than I am
06:43
and so they’re attracted and there are
06:44
guys who are turned off when they
06:46
actually hear what my actual ages that’s
06:48
at engines it’s okay I think people have
06:51
a right to make decisions about age you
06:54
know what culture chef’s do you think
06:56
happened to make daddy is more popular I
06:58
think partly there’s a bit of hyper
07:01
masculinity that’s attached to the
07:03
notion of being a daddy it’s not always
07:05
accurate but the idea that you’ve got a
07:07
beard she may be a little hairy that
07:10
you’re you know
07:12
there is one guy and now I find very
07:13
attractive he goes to Gold’s Gym where I
07:16
go and I remember
07:17
he asked me what my age was at the time
07:19
I said I’m 66 he’s in his 30s he said
07:22
that is such a turn-on now I really do
07:29
that it’s an but I’mI’m braced the fact
07:32
that on the day yeah yeah do you feel
07:39
like it’s the same for twinks oh yeah
07:40
absolutely
07:41
being a twink that you get categorized
07:43
into but it’s also being a bottom you
07:47
also get put into this category of being
07:49
feminine and you know that’s just not
07:51
that you would you say that you’re
07:51
feminine
07:52
yeah a little bit but I can also be very
07:54
not masculine but masculine in my own
07:56
way you know like I’m not over-the-top
07:58
what you think feminine is I can be
08:00
relaxed and chill and just kind of like
08:01
and then you know how do you feel about
08:04
getting older do you like it
08:06
I I think it has affected mates yeah I
08:08
think came in a frightened of Aging
08:11
imagine if you fall in love with someone
08:13
and who you want to spend the rest of
08:15
your life with and the rest of that
08:16
person’s life is five years and the rest
08:19
of yours is 40 I sensed that in the HIV
08:22
era before there was any treatment as
08:24
someone who’s HIV positive I found
08:26
people nervous because they could get in
08:29
a relationship with me but what if I
08:31
died I just think that’s such a for me I
08:33
think that’s such a stupid factor
08:35
because I could get hit by a bus leaving
08:36
here do you know if you like the Tigers
08:38
and now you should probably work on it
08:41
now I’m very literally trying to bank on
08:43
a future with someone that may never
08:45
come
08:46
are you so you’re writing someone off
08:48
when you might be written off your
08:50
friends jottings
08:51
yeah like the faith’s might be writing
08:53
you off so when do you convert to daddy
08:55
or are you gonna be an aging twink do
08:56
you think you know am I already not a
08:58
daddy
08:59
girl
09:00
oh look Panther camera to me it doesn’t
09:03
really matter cuz at the end of the day
09:04
it’s just what people think of me it
09:07
doesn’t necessarily affect or impact my
09:09
actual life you know like I don’t sit at
09:11
home and like I’m like oh my god it’s my
09:12
26th birthday am I still twink you know
09:14
I have a group of friends who are
09:17
younger than me I now have an older
09:18
group of friends there is a guy who was
09:20
amazing and he has dinner with me once a
09:23
month and he calls me young man
09:25
yeah having friends that are owners
09:27
absolutely made me less than secure
09:28
about aging because I see firsthand
09:30
because they’re queer older people what
09:32
I can grow into and it’s less terrifying
09:35
than what I saw in heteronormative
09:37
settings because I don’t want a golden
09:39
retriever and 2.3 kids on a white picket
09:41
fence and to be married like that I want
09:43
a house in the hills of the pool and I
09:44
want to throw parties every month I know
09:48
but guess what my older queer people do
09:50
that I love it you’re doing it I can do
09:53
it too and I think in years to come we
09:56
will see Gucci designing canes yeah all
10:00
right guys I think we solved ageism for
10:01
the gays that was so fucking easy I
10:03
don’t have a few short minutes in this
10:05
outfit because what the flip I’m Hari
10:07
swans is so please like comment and
10:09
subscribe thank you for joining me
10:11
honey’s and I wanna thank you and
10:13
mention that I’m single
10:14
Oh single kind of but it collecting
10:19
you’re wasting your time thank you so
10:23
much I’m Hari swans and this is what the
10:24
flip
10:27
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