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People think 21 is too young to get married but we disagree. I’m Val, I’m 21 years old
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and I’m getting married to Charlie. And I’m Charlie and I’m 22 years old and I’m getting
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married to Val. A lot of people conceive of getting married as something to be done after
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you’ve kind of had all of your fun, in your twenties and then, you know, in your thirties,
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when you’re a little bit more settled and you’ve kind of done your travelling, you’ve
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had your good times, that’s when you decide to get married. Val and I don’t conceive of
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our twenties as, you know, a time to get out all of our fun before we then get married
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in our thirties. We kind of moved in with each other straight away. Val said “Yeah,
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I really wanna, like, get married and have kids young, maybe by the age of like, 26 or
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27”. And I was similar right. So, then I was like “Oh no way, me as well”. The idea of
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marriage young and having kinds young was already something that we both wanted before
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we got together. Planning the wedding has obviously been a lot of work. I think it’s
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more about careful, sort of, planning and compromise. I don’t think it needs to be a
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stressful situation and it certainly hasn’t really been for us. I think the only thing
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people would really be negative about or have been negative about is how young we are and
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whether we basically know if we’re making the right decision or not. You know, you’ve
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only known this person for X amount of time, you can’t possibly know you want to spend
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the rest of your life with them. Well, I’m not forcing you to marry anyone. Yeah. Like,
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you know, it doesn’t affect you. How could they know, you’re not in my head, you can’t
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possibly understand how sure I am of this. Valentina is my best friend and I really love
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her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I know that and for me there
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was no point in waiting, you know, an arbitrary amount of time for social norms to give me
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the thumbs up, to say well you can get married now. My friend Lilly definitely had some doubts.
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My main concern was that you’re taking marriage as something that’s gonna complete you or
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something that is gonna be the end game for you, like, you know, I never want you think
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now I’m married I have no more progression to make in life or I’ve put all my eggs in
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this basket and this is where I want to be. Yeah. I’m just really worried that this is
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it. Like marriage and then children and then, you know. And then housewife. Honestly, it’s
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literally just when you know, you know. Like, it’s obviously impossible to describe. It’s
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impossible to rationalise or prove to someone because the only way that you could really
02:42
understand it is if you were in our shoes and that’s impossible. So, I think it does
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require a level of trust, like from the people that care about us. And just kind of say,
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they’re doing what they’re doing, like, it’s right for them, right now, you know, let them
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do their thing. At the end of the day, I think everyone has their own different ideas of
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what’s right for them but Charlie and I will never regret getting married young. We’re
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doing what’s right for us and I think that, that’s all that matters.
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