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It could sound rather brutal to hear that we’ll never find the right person, but it’s, in fact, the most generous and optimistic sentiment, because only once we give up on the absurd dream of finding the Right Person (who doesn’t exist for anyone), can we start to make it work with that far more realistic and likely partner: the good enough person.
Your fears are right: you won’t. It seems harsh to say it just now but the right partner for you doesn’t really exist: there are just different varieties and degrees of wrongness. It’s not your fault or theirs. Anyone, however lovely they seem at first, will turn out to be maddening, difficult and deeply disappointing in a few – but to you very important – ways.
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