This comment was from Kelly on the post “Control the Anger or Lose the Relationship“.
Anger is an excuse for, rather than a cause of, abusive behavior. We all feel angry. We don’t all choose to abuse because we’re angry. I appreciated you pointing out that abusers will choose opportunities based on risk assessment. Another example: They choose to destroy another person’s property, even when their own things are within reach, during “uncontrollable fits of rage.”