This comment by Ang on the post How Your Bitter Divorce Broke Us Children
Thank you for sharing your story. As an expert avoidist for the past 20 years, it’s good to read pieces like this, to help me decode my feelings now that I’m more capable of doing so. I had a similar experience as a child, though the circumstances were different and I chose to live with the parent who wasn’t filled with hatred. I am eternally grateful that that option was possible for me. I am 37 and unmarried, by choice. I am beginning to feel like I am capable of sharing my life with someone, possibly having children, but it comes after — as you mentioned — years of simply needing peace and quiet. And of being able to fill my heart with love, rather than the anger and frustration that always seemed to reside there.
As difficult a price we pay for it, I think the hidden benefit of having experienced this kind of childhood is being able to choose to walk away from that legacy, to choose to bring love and joy and compassion into the world and to step away from the bitterness and resentment.
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Question of the Day:
Since divorce is an adult activity should we not keep the kids out of it? They are, after all, the innocent in the divorce mess.
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