This comment was by Ryan in reference to the post – Pay for My Dinner, Make Me a Sandwich
I always pay for dinner without any discussion. It is just the easiest assumption to make. I do not argue if a date insists on splitting the bill, however.
Most women seem to be of the female-centric selective equality type. I pay for dinner, she buys us ice cream, I host dinner, she brings a bottle of wine, dessert, or most of the time… nothing. The last two women I had short term relationships with (four months and five months respectively) rarely ever reciprocated or showed any signs of appreciation. But then I believe in small gestures … a stop at the bakery on the way over to get a favorite dessert, pick her up with coffee after work, thought out dates, hosted dinner, a random sweet ‘thinking of you’, or small compliments. It’s my experience that a lot of women have no ‘game’ anymore. The smallest of gestures is appreciated, and it’s getting exceedingly rare. It shouldn’t be amazing that a woman offers to buy you coffee for having to reschedule a date, but it is. The older generation, mom’s, aunt’s, etc. either don’t believe this or are aghast. I just have to tell them that I’ve dated 15 women in the past two years and I’ve NEVER had a woman make dinner for me. They then see the cultural divide.
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I haven’t either, come to think of it. Always the other way around. Though IMHO women are the most dependable when it comes to potluck gatherings.